UNDERSTANDING THE WOMAN'S COMMUNICATION STYLE!!!

Genesis 2




Today we are walking in: Understanding The Woman's Communication Style!!!




Today we look to the word-PURPOSE- H6213 ’asah--to do, work, make, produce; to act, act with effect, effect








The Torah testifies...............

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The prophets proclaim..................






Daniel 6:17

And a stone was brought, and laid upon the mouth of the den; and the king sealed it with his own signet, and with the signet of his lords; that the purpose H6213 might not be changed concerning Daniel.









The writings bear witness...........................






Ecclesiates 3:1

To every thing there is a season, and a time to every purpose H6213 under the heaven:







UNDERSTANDING THE WOMAN’S COMMUNICATION STYLE!!!




I have seen too much not to know that the impression of a woman may be more valuable than the conclusion of an analytical reasoner.

~Sir Arthur Conan Doyle

(as Sherlock Holmes)




Yah made women and men very different from each other in the way they think, act and respond. These differences were designed to be complementary and not divisive. Adam and Eve originally lived in harmony with Yah, and so they were able to live in harmony with one another. They knew how to draw on each other’s strengths in communication for the betterment of them both. However, when humanity turned away for Yah’s purposes and broke relationship with Him, the lines of communication between males and females were cut or at least badly frayed. Thus, the differences that were originally designed to correspond to one another now often lead to misunderstandings and conflicts in marriage and in other relationships between women and men.




The chances are very good that you have experienced some of this misunderstanding and conflict firsthand! Handling differences of opinion and avoiding discord are common problems in relationships.




Consequently, how should you conduct yourself when you have been created to function differently from others with whom you live and work? How are you to live harmoniously with a husband or wife whom you love but who processes information and responds in a manner that is totally distinct from the way that you do? How do you make yourself understood and how do you communicate effectively? Most of all, how do you keep from trying to control another person or driving a wedge between yourself and others because of these differences?




How do you live harmoniously with someone who is different from you?




Many women and men struggle with these issues. The answer is to understand the purposes and designs of females and males that influence their communication styles. With this knowledge- and some patience and forgiveness- females and males who are seeking Yah’s redemptive purposes for their lives can communicate with one another effectively and happily. Perhaps Colassians 3:13 would be a good guiding principle for us as we deal with differences in communication: “Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as The Most High forgave you.” When women and men are considerate with one another, they have the basis on which they can develop the mutual love and honor that is crucial to lasting relationships.




Let us now look at the female’s communication style and contrast it with the male’s style, so that their different perspectives can be understood and appreciated. In this way, they may be brought into the complementary balance that was Yah’s original purpose for them. This balance will be achieved when females and males understand the strengths of each communication style and when they learn to communicate with each other according to the style that the other party can receive and understand.




The following are the basic natures and tendencies of females and males in communication. Of course, there will always be exceptions, depending on the individual. Yet within the variations, the general tendencies usually hold true.




The Woman Is An “Emotional Feeler”




Yah made the woman primarily as an “emotional feeler,” while He made the man chiefly as a “logical thinker.” First, let’s define these terms.




When I say that a woman is an emotional feeler, I am referring to the way in which she processes and thinks about the verbal and nonverbal communication she receives and perceives from the world around her. Because the woman is an incubator, she not only receives thoughts and ideas into her being but also transforms them as she processes them in her emotional, mental, and spiritual wombs. Her communication style reflects this process. When a woman receives information, she assesses it both mentally and emotionally at the same time. This is what makes her distinct from the male, who generally uses these functions separately. Why is this so?




Again, purpose determines design. Yah’s creation is remarkable. He actually designed the brains of females and males to be different. The neural pathways between the left and right hemispheres of a woman’s brain (both logical and emotional sides) are intact. This explains what often puzzles many men: how women are able to do multiple tasks at the same time, rather than having to focus on just one. The woman’s brain allows her to process facts and feelings almost simultaneously. Her emotions are with her all the time she is thinking, and this influences her perspective on the world around her as well as what is communicated to her.




In contrast, there are fewer nerves connecting the two hemispheres of the male’s brain, so that the logical and emotional sides are not as closely connected. Because of this, he basically needs to “shift gears” to move from his dominant logical side to his emotional side. This is why men, in general, think in terms of facts and in a linear fashion. They think like a straight line- the shortest distance between two points- which gives them the ability to see the goal (the vision) and to focus their energies on reaching it in the most straightforward way.




Women, on the other hand, tend to think more like a grid than a straight line. A woman’s brain is designed to pick up many details that men don’t “see,” things that go beyond the mere facts, such as the personalities, motivations, and feelings of both herself and others. She can perceive, analyze, evaluate, and see relationships between things all at the same time, like x, y, and z coordinates on a grid track a multiple of factors at the same time.




No one person, and no one gender, can look at the world with complete perspective. Therefore, Yah has designed things so that when the female-man and the male-man work together in unity, they can help one another to see a more balanced picture of life. They weren’t meant to understand the world and fulfill their dominion mandate in isolation from one another. For this reason, they have built-in ways of seeing the world that are of benefit to each other. Yah designed the woman to look at life through an emotional filter and the man to look at life through a logical filter. This does not mean that women do not use logic or that men do not have emotions. They each have a specific way of looking at the world.




The women can help the man see aspects of life, which, if overlooked or ignored, can become detours or potholes preventing him from reaching his goal or from reaching it as quickly as he might have. Her peripheral vision keeps him from being blindsided as he single-mindedly pursues his goals and objectives. On the other hand, the man’s linear thinking helps the woman not to become so enmeshed in many layers of her multidimensional thinking that she loses sight of the goal and never reaches it. Women and men need each other to chart the best course in life- one that enables them to reach their common goal but also experience their journey in the fuller, wisest, and most rewarding way possible.




Women often have been written off as foolish and inferior by men because they are expressive and show their emotions. A woman does not need to apologize for her emotions. Yah made her to feel. Males have assumed that their approach is better than the females’ approach, rather than complementary to it. They haven’t known or understood how and why the woman was created to be an emotional feeler.




Feeling and Thinking




What communication between women and men comes down to is feeling, thinking and self expression. Women and men both feel. Women and men both think. It is their manner of looking at the world and their self expression that makes the difference. A woman’s first reaction will generally be an emotional one followed by a thinking one. The man’s first reaction will be a thinking one, but he will also feel.




Because the woman was created to be more attuned emotionally, she feels everything from the way a person looks at her to what a person is saying or doing. This is a natural response for her, because she was made to feel the world around her and within her.




When we don’t understand purpose, we begin to misinterpret motives.




For example, a woman will be looking forward to a romantic evening with her husband that they had planned. She will prepare the food, set the table, arrange the flowers, maybe even polish the silverware, and then meet him at the door when he comes home. Her husband walks in, says hello, then strides right past her without noticing that she has dressed up. Instead of going to the table, he goes into the living room and says, “I’m going to have dinner in front of the TV while I watch the news.” His mind is still in work mode. He is intent on finding out any information that may affect his work and thus his ability to provide for his wife and family. However, because his wife doesn’t understand this, she is deeply hurt at his behavior; her first reaction is to feel that he is ungrateful, inconsiderate, and totally heartless. So she goes into the living room and approaches him angrily. He asks, “What’s the matter with you?”




At this point, she sees nothing complementary in the way he is designed. When we don’t understand purpose, we begin to misinterpret motives. It is this suspicion that creates conflict. This is why understanding purpose and design is so important. Both the woman’s reaction and the man’s reaction are related to the way they are made. She took his apparent indifference personally, while his mind was preoccupied with what he was thinking so that he did not notice what his wife was feeling.




When women and men understand that the female-man is an emotional feeler and that the male-man is a logical thinker, they can understand how to use their differences for the betterment of them both. The point is that the distinct differences between women and men are meant to be a help to them- not a hindrance or source of pain. One way of thinking and communicating is not better than the other way, and the inherent differences between the two are not a result of the Fall. The way women and men are designed is for their good. They just need to exercise patience and understanding and to value the other’s contribution.




Self-Expression




A woman can generally express her feelings and thoughts better than a man can. Most women love to talk because of Yah’s purpose for them. Yah designed the woman to communicate what is going on in her heart and mind. Because a man talks less than a woman does, he can sometimes give her the impression that he is not doing much thinking. Men think quite a bit; however, they often don’t express their thoughts, and when they do, they express only the most salient points because they are interested in facts rather than details.




This is why a man can walk into the house and bypass a beautifully set table his wife has prepared and not say anything about it. The man needs help in switching his focus from linear thinking about his goals and work to an appreciation of the sensory and emotional aspects of life. Then he can notice and appreciate what his wife has done for him. He also needs to learn to articulate what he appreciates and feels. The woman, on her part, needs to understand when the man walks by her table without saying anything, it doesn’t necessarily mean that he is being inconsiderate. It means that he is in a linear frame of mind, because this is his natural mindset.




Do Men Really Have Emotions?




Contrary to what many women believe, men do have emotions. They just don’t always express them- either because it is more difficult for them to or because their thinking rather than their emotions is at the forefront of what they are engaged in. It all goes back to purpose. Yah designed the man with the capacity to focus on the cold hard facts of a situation. Why? It is because he was created first, and in that position was designed to lead. A leader can’t afford to base his decisions on emotion, especially in a crisis.




Remember, we are talking about general tendencies. This doesn’t mean that a woman can’t lead. However, when she does, she often has to balance her emotions with the facts in order to make the best decisions. Moreover, her instincts can serve her well in this capacity.




She is feeling; he is thinking.




I have observed that the way a man acts when he receives information from a woman can make her angry. Suppose she says, “The mortgage is due, and we’re behind in our payments.” He says, “Don’t worry about it. I’ll take care of it.” His wife says, “But you don’t understand what I said. We don’t have any money, and they’re coming to get the furniture!” He replies, “I know. I said I’ll take care of it.” The woman phones her mother, cousin, and aunt to tell them about her situation, but the man seems almost nonchalant about it. The woman could interpret his response to mean that he doesn’t care. Yet all this time, he’s been thinking about what he’s going to do. She is feeling, he is thinking. He is formulating all kinds of schemes in his head about how he can get the money. Since a female is an emotional feeler, she is generally led or motivated by her emotions, even though she also think. Yet a male is led or motivated by his thinking because of his leadership and provider responsibilities.




There are times when a woman isn’t feeling what a man is thinking, and a man is not thinking what a woman is feeling. When this happens, the lack of communication between them compounds their frustration with one another. Men need to learn to tell women what they are thinking and feeling. Again, when the man walks past the beautifully laid dinner table, he has to remember to express his feelings. At the same time, the woman shouldn’t consider his unemotional response as being either irresponsible or inconsiderate.




A Perfect Balance




The man generally bases his thoughts and actions on what is logical; he factually analyzes everything. This is both a strength and a weakness, because emotions and insights are very important to a person’s functioning in the world. Therefore, the man needs someone who can balance his logic with feeling. Otherwise, he’ll go through life with merely a cold, logical outlook. He needs someone who can show him the emotional side of life, who can remind him of his need to be sensitive to others. I appreciate Yah’s design. He designed things in such a way that females and males need one another.




The female was created to help the man in that, whatever the male lacks, the female has. The female’s emotional feeling will balance the male’s logical thinking. Many women don’t understand how important they are to the men in their lives. What the male-man lacks, the female-man possesses. The reverse is also true. This principle is based on Yah’s purpose. Whatever Yah drew out of Adam to make Eve, the man needs in order to be complete. There are qualities in the woman that Yah took out of the man at creation that a man needs.

WOMAN AS LIFE-GIVER!!!!

Genesis chapter 2




Today we are walking in: Woman As Life-Giver!!!










Genesis 1:29




And God said, Behold, I have given H5414 you every herb bearing seed, which is upon the face of all the earth, and every tree, in the which is the fruit of a tree yielding seed; to you it shall be for meat.









GIVE








Today we look to the word-GIVE- H5414 nathan-- to give, grant, permit, ascribe, dedicate, pay wages, entrust, give over, deliver up, yield produce, report








The Torah testifies...............




Deuteronomy 3:18




And I commanded you at that time, saying, The LORD your God hath given H5414 you this land to possess it: ye shall pass over armed before your brethren the children of Israel, all that are meet for the war.













The prophets proclaim..................




Isaiah 40:29




He giveth H5414 power to the faint; and to them that have no might he increaseth strength.








The writings bear witness...........................



Psalm 84:11




For the LORD God is a sun and shield: the LORD will give H5414 grace and glory: no good thing will he withhold from them that walk uprightly.







THE WOMAN AS LIFE-GIVER




It has been said that the pressure exerted on a woman’s body during delivery would kill a man. Apparently, the pressure is so heavy that a male’s body could not physically hold up under it. This phenomenon sheds new meaning on the verse, “I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well” (Psalm 139:14). When Yah created woman to be able to carry a baby to term and to deliver that baby, he gave her extraordinary capabilities. He built her so that she could do what He had designed her to do. The woman was designed to be able to gestate- to conceive, carry a baby to term, and bring forth this new life into the world. Now, as we will see, Yah’s design for the woman as a life-giver goes beyond her physical abilities. It permeates her entire makeup as a female. Therefore, the third aspect of the female’s dominion role is that she is meant to conceive, develop, and give new life to or “incubate” what she receives into herself.




The Naming of the Woman




After the Fall, but before the man and woman were banished from the Garden, the man gave the woman a name. “Adam named his wife Eve, because she would become” (Genesis 3:20). The name Eve in the Hebrew is Chavvah, and it means “life-giver.” It is significant that Yah did not cause the man and the woman to leave the Garden before Eve was named. As was mentioned earlier, her ability to bear children, her role of life-giver, was part of Yah’s original design and is not a result of the Fall in any way.




The woman is essentially a life-giver. She was given the ability to receive the seed of the male and to reproduce after their kind. This is an awesome capability. Yah gave the female a powerful responsibility in the world.




The Woman Focuses Her Entire Being on Creating Life




The woman has physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual “wombs.”




During physical pregnancy, the woman’s body undergoes a complete transformation: the lining of her womb thickens in order to create an environment for the new life to develop while it is kept protected, safe, and warm; her hormone levels change to prevent miscarriage; her brain chemistry alters; her nutrients are directed to go first to her unborn baby, and many other changes occur. Pregnancy is a remarkable process that shifts the focus and efforts of the woman’s entire body to the task of developing the new life within her womb.




The Woman Is an “Incubator” by Nature




Yet the woman’s dominion role of life-giver is not limited to carrying and delivering a human child. We could call her an “incubator,” because her very nature reflects her inclination to develop and give new life to things. This purpose for the woman is not surprising, because there is often a reflection of the spiritual in the physical world, as Paul told us in Romans 1.




Since Yah created the woman’s gestational ability as an integral part of her nature, this ability permeates all areas of her life. She has a physical womb, but she also has an emotional “womb,” a mental and instinctual “womb,” and a spiritual “womb.” She brings forth life in all these areas of her makeup. Everything about her is a womb. She receives things into herself, nurtures them until they mature, and then gives them back in fully developed form.




For example, a sperm isn’t much use without an egg. An egg uniting with a sperm is what creates human life, and the resulting embryo’s cells begin to multiply when it is in the nurturing environment of the womb. What started as a sperm and egg ends up a fully formed human baby. The fetus has developed so that it now has a life of its own. Similarly, the woman takes from the people and the environments around her- especially her husband, if she is married- and creates something entirely new with what she takes in. Many women don’t even know that they are blessed with such an awesome purpose.




Everything goes back to the purpose and design of Yah. The woman’s nature is to be a receiver, and that is why she can receive the seed of the man in order to create a new human life. Yet it is not only a matter of receiving, but also of being able to transform what she has received in a remarkable way, that makes her an incubator. A womb will never give back to you just what it has received. It will always take what you have given it and multiply it.




Whatever you give a woman, she’s going to multiply.




When a woman receives an idea and incubates it, it becomes something greater- something bigger, stronger, more dynamic. There’s so much to it that she staggers with the weight of it. Whatever you give a woman, she’s going to to multiply. If you give her sperm, she’ll give you a baby. If you give her a house, she’ll give you a home. If you give her groceries, she’ll make you a meal. If you give her a smile, she’ll give you her heart. She multiples and enlarges what is given to her.




Therefore, if you want to develop anything, bring it to a woman. Do you have the beginnings of an idea or a prayer request? Tell a woman. Most men will tell their ideas to anyone but their wives. Do you have an idea for a business? Tell a woman. When she comes back to you with it, she will say, “Here’s your business.” She will have the plan and how to go about it , even from whom to get the money. And the plan will work.




The Creative Processes of Incubation




What exactly do I mean by incubation apart from actual physical gestation? I mean that the woman is gifted with many creative abilities that can assist her loved ones, herself, and the world. A woman incubates in these main ways:





She sees possibilities and potential


She ponders words, actions, and relationships between things.


She processes words, ideas, needs, and problems.


She conceives and invents.


She develops ideas, plans, and programs.


She protects what she has received while it develops.


She produces something new from what she receives.


She multiplies what she is given.




You could say that the woman is an entire research and development department all in one. In this, she reflects the nature of her Creator who “gives life to the dead and calls things that are not as though they were” (Romans 4:17). Just as Yah created man out of Himself, a woman brings forth new life from within herself.




This gift of being an incubator has two sides to it, however, It can have a destructive side as well as a creative side, when what the woman receives into herself is not healthy for her emotionally, psychologically, or spiritually. We have seen that because the woman is a receiver, she adapts to or reflects the attitudes and actions of those around her. She takes them in and processes them in a way that can be a mystery to a man, who sees life in a more cut-and-dry way.




The Womb of the Emotions




Whatever you have been giving a female, you will receive back- in a different form.




For example, many men display domineering or antagonistic attitudes towards the women in their lives overlong periods of time. A woman can be pregnant with the bitterness that a man has been presenting her for years. At some point, her long suffering will come to an end and she will be full-term. The woman has received this bitterness. She has been very quiet for years while she has carried her painful baby, so that he doesn’t understand when she suddenly delivers it. She might say, “That’s it! I’ve had it. I want you to leave.” The man will say, “What happened? I’ve been doing just what I have been doing for the last ten years.” “Well, that’s it; the baby’s come. Get out. Take your clothes, everything, and get out of my house.” He wonders what has gotten into her, but the baby has been in her for a long time, growing and developing.




For years, I have been teaching men to be careful what they feed women, because it will come back to them- and in a new stronger form. Whatever you have been giving a female, you will receive back. It will have grown and developed into something you didn’t expect. “Here, this is what you gave me,” she’ll say. “This is the result of what you presented me.” Often, the attitude of a woman is really the “baby” that has resulted from what the man has been giving her.




Suppose a man tells his wife during a heated argument, “I wish I had never married you!” The woman becomes angry when she hears it, but she locks herself into her emotional room. The man may have said a thousand words to her during the argument, but just that one sentence went into her heart, penetrating it just as the single sperm out of millions penetrates the egg at conception. Do you know what she does with it? She incubates it. Nine years later, he says to her, “Honey, you’re the sweetest thing I ever married.” She says, “You didn’t think so nine years ago.” The woman is still carrying the baby.




Now, men take care of the business at hand, and then they forget about things. So, he answers, “What are you talking about?” Yet she remembers the date, the time, the atmospheric conditions, what was there, who was there, what color dress she was wearing, and what kind of ice cream she was eating. She incubates things.




A man is different because he doesn’t have any wombs. If you say to a man, “You’re ugly,” he’ll say, “You’re ugly, too,” and then he will forget the incident. However, if you tell a woman that, she’ll remember it forever.




Single men have to be careful what they say to single women. If a man says to a woman, “Hey beautiful, you look great,” he is probably going to have a baby in a little while. I’m not talking about a physical baby. He will conceive an emotional baby. The woman will tell him, “You told me you loved me.” He’ll say, “I was only joking.” “Joking!”




A woman will incubate your words, so you have to guard what you say.




If a man knows that a woman is an incubator, then he can be careful about what he says to her. Suppose a husband tells his wife that he notices she’s put on a few pounds. To him, it’s just a casual statement, but it becomes something that the woman incubates. All of a sudden he sees her getting up early and jogging when she never jogged before. He wonders what brought this on, but it is because she has conceived his comment. Every time he mentions it, she becomes more and more under pressure from the thing. Then she begins to become insecure. She starts to feel as if he is looking at other women and comparing them to her. This builds internally until one day she hears him say something nice about other women. Then, get out of the way, because here comes the baby!




This principle does not only apply to the relationships between husbands and wives or even men and women in general. Women have to be careful what they say to other women, as well as women to their daughters. A woman can harm another woman by the words she speaks. A woman may tell her friend, “Your hair looks a little different today.” She just makes a slight comment about the woman’s hair, without any intended implication. Yet that isn't the end of the comment. The friend takes that statement home and incubates it, builds it up, and develops it. A couple weeks later, the friend gives the woman a piece of her mind. We have to be careful what we say to each other.




A woman forgets nothing. Remember the verse we looked at earlier? “Can a woman forget her nursing child, and not have compassion on the son of her womb?” (Isaiah 49:15). A man might even forget he had a son, but a woman can be ninety years old and still say about her seventy year old son, “That’s my baby.” She carried him, she gestated him, and, in a sense, she’s still gestating him. She still thinks of ways to help him; she still worries about him.




The Womb of the Mind or Instinct




Yah never intended a male to live in isolation. It was never His idea for this to happen because Yah is love, and, by nature, love desires to share. There are some selfish men in the world who don’t want to get married simply because they don’t want to have to share their money with anyone. When some married men get paid, they hang onto their paychecks very tightly. They always think a woman is after their money. There may be some truth to this. However, the reason why she is after it is that she is wired to receive. The reason why she is wired to receive is that, if the man keeps his money to himself, it will not multiply. A female is an incubator. She will never give you back just what you gave her, but above and beyond that.




A woman can be ninety years old and still say about her seventy year old son, “That’s my baby.”




If you give a woman twenty dollars and say, “Sweetheart, I trust you. Please go ahead and invest this in whatever way you think you should.” When you look at that twenty dollars again, it will be two hundred dollars, then two thousand dollars, then twenty thousand dollars. Yahusha gave His bride eleven apostles, plus the apostle Paul. She’s still multiplying what He gave her. She’s not going to give Him back just twelve men. She’s going to bring Him millions of men, women, and children. The true believers are taking the seed of the Word and causing it to multiply into millions of souls so that she can present them to Yah. Yah is not going to get back just what He gave. He’s going to get more, because He gave it to a woman called the church. The woman is like the servant in the parable of the talents who dubbed the investment with which his master had entrusted him.




Men need to understand that a woman’s nature can be a great blessing to them.




The Womb of the Spirit




Why is it that few men attend prayer meetings? If you go to a prayer meeting, you will find that it is mainly attended by women. I noticed this for myself and started to wonder about it. Then I realized, “It is because women are incubators. If they are presented with an idea, a need, or problem, they will take it to heart and will work through it until they arrive at a solution.




Just as a womb nourishes a fetus during development and an incubator protects premature or sick babies, a woman has a nurturing instinct that can be a powerful source of help and encouragement in the lives of others.




If a man wants something prayed about, he should tell a woman. She’ll take the circumstance into her spiritual womb, where she meets with Yah in her inner being, incubates it for months, if necessary, and bring forth a solution. She won’t give up until she receives an answer from Yah.




Yahusha didn’t say that it was a man who kept knocking at the judge’s door in order to obtain justice. (See Luke 18:2-8.) It wasn’t a man who persisted with The Most High Yahusha for a healing for her daughter, saying “Yes, Most High… but even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table” (Matthew 15:27). The woman is an incubator. She doesn’t quit until she’s a full nine months’ pregnant and ready to deliver.




Do you know to whom Yah first gave the resurrection message? Women. Do you know why He didn’t give it to the males at first? They forget too much. He waited until the women arrived. When Mary showed up, He said, “I want to talk to an incubator. I want someone who can take this and never stop talking about it.” It was the women who went and told the men. Why? It was because the men had locked themselves in their room. But the women had gone back to the tomb.




If you give a woman at a well a message, she will turn into an evangelistic crusade team. (See John 4:4-30.)




The Woman Gives Life to Things




A woman was made to give life. This means that if you need some life in your life, get a life-giver. Some men today are walking around trying to be self-reliant, keeping women at arm’s length. They don’t know the life they are missing.




Yah wants to set you free to develop the gifts He has placed within you.




Yah made the female to be the life-giver, so that whenever you need to give like to something, she can do it. Have you ever been in the apartment of a man who is living by himself? The colors are drab. Everything is out of place. It looks horrible. People tell him, “You need a woman’s touch.” When the man gets married and his wife moves in, she changes the drab look. She puts up colorful curtains, places flowers around the rooms, puts pictures on the walls, rearranges the furniture, and in no time, makes it into a beautiful place. When a woman walks into a room, she changes the countenance of that room. She gives life to a place.




Many women have gifts of incubation but have been so beaten down by life and the hurtful remarks of others that they have rarely used them. They have been told by men and other women that they have nothing to contribute. If this is your situation, I believe that Yah wants to set you free to develop the gifts He has placed within you and the ideas and visions He will give you. Don’t be afraid. Yah has given you tremendous ability, and you can be a blessing to many as you reflect the nature of your own Creator and Life-Giver.




The last three teachings have explored the woman’s purposes in dominion as enhancer, reflector, and life-giver. A female is a unique product of Yah. Men (and women) must understand her value and contributions, and affirm her in the purposes, designs, and roles for which Yah created her. In this way, male and female can together become the true reflection of their Creator they were meant to be.




Principles


The third aspect of the female’s dominion role is that she is a life-giver.


The woman’s dominion role of life-giver is not limited to gestating and delivering a human child.


The woman is an “incubator,” because her very nature reflects her inclination to develop and give new life to things.


Her incubational ability permeates all areas of her life. She has a physical womb, but she also has an emotional “womb,” a mental and instinctual “womb,” and a spiritual “womb.”


It is not only a matter of receiving, but also of being able to transform what she has received, that makes the woman an incubator.


A womb will never give back to you just what it has received. It will take what you have given it and multiply it.


A woman incubates in these main ways:


She sees possibilities and potential


She ponders words, actions, and relationships between things.


She processes words, ideas, needs, and problems.


She conceives and invents


She develops ideas, plans, and programs.


She protects what she has received while it develops


She produces something new from what she receives


She multiplies what she is given




When a man knows that a woman is an incubator, then he can be careful and considerate about what he says to her.


A woman has a nurturing instinct that can be a powerful source of help and encouragement in the lives of others.


Yah wants to set you free to develop the gifts He has placed within you and the ideas and visions He will give you.

WOMAN AS REFLECTOR!!!!

Genesis chapter 2




Today we are walking in: Woman As Reflector!!!!




Psalm 119:127

Therefore I love H157 thy commandments above gold; yea, above fine gold.






LOVE




Today we look to the word LOVE --H157 - 'ahab --a primitive root; to have affection for:—be loved, lovely, like, friend.






The Torah testifies.........……




Exodus 20:6

And shewing mercy unto thousands of them that love H157 me, and keep my commandments.




Deuteronomy 6:5

And thou shalt love H157 the Lord thy God with all thine heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy might.









The prophets proclaim..................




Joshua 23:11

Take good heed therefore unto yourselves, that ye love H157 the Lord your God.





Micah 6:8

He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the Lord require of thee, but to do justly, and to love H157 mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?











The writings bear witness............




Proverbs 17: 9

He that covereth a transgression seeketh love H157; but he that repeateth a matter separateth very friends.

THE WOMAN AS REFLECTOR




In this teaching we will discuss a second aspect of the woman’s dominion role: her role as reflector. Man, the spirit, was created out of the essence of Yah and in the image of Yah in order to receive Yah’s love and to reflect His nature. The female was created in the same pattern. She was made out of the essence of the male and in the physical image of the male in order to receive the male’s love and reflect and to reflect his nature. The parallels between the creation of the spirit-man and the creation of the female, as we learned earlier, are striking. They have significance for our personal relationships with The Most High and also our representation of the love of Hamachiach to the world. We will first look at the woman’s purpose as reflector and what this means for the male-female relationship. Then we will look at the spiritual implications of the community’s role in reflecting Yah’s nature to the world as the bride of Hamachiach.




The Woman Is The Object of the Man’s Love




The Woman Is Designed To Receive Love




The single most important reason that the female was created was so that she could receive love. Therefore, the first purpose of the female as reflector is that she was made to be the object of the male’s love and to reflect the love that he gives her.




When Yah made woman, He drew her out of man so that the man would have someone to love who was of his own nature. It was love that brought about the woman’s existence. In this way, the man was created to be a giver of love and the woman to be a receiver of love. In the last teaching, we saw how the woman’s receiving nature makes her adaptable to the man and to her environment. Yet the primary purpose of the female’s receiving nature is to receive love.




What this means is that Yah has designed the woman to function on love. Love is the fuel of a female. When you don’t give a car fuel, it can’t run. The same thing happens with a woman. If you don’t give her the love she is meant to receive, she also can’t fully function in the way she was created to. In order to be fulfilled, the woman needs love.




In Ephesians 5, Paul said, “Husbands, love your wives” (v.25). He expressed this thought three times: “Husbands, love your wives, just as Hamachiach loved the church and gave himself up for her” (v.25). “Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself” (v.28). “Each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself” (v.33).




The man should love the woman because she was drawn from him and is a part of him. If he doesn’t love her, it’s the equivalent of the man hating himself (v.29). He treats himself well when he treats his wife well. The man’s role, then, is to love his wife as himself, with all the attributes of love that are found in 1 Corinthians 13:




Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres. Love never fails. (1 Corinthians 13:4-8)




When you give the female-man love, she comes alive. Yet when she receives anything less than genuine love, it is as if she short-circuits. When you don’t love a woman, you are abusing her very nature.




It is interesting to note that nowhere in the Bible does Yah tell the woman to love the man. The woman is instructed to submit to the man, to respect and to honor him. Yet Yah commands the man over and over again to love the woman. Why? It is because the Fall damaged the male’s Yah-given natural love for the female, so that he wants to rule over her rather than to love her as himself. This is why, as the male is being restored to Yah’s original design through redemption in Hamachiach, he needs to be instructed to love the woman. For the same reason, the female’s Yah-given natural honor for the male was damaged, and that is why she needs to be instructed to honor him. Thus, when Yah’s purposes are restored, peace is re establishes between males and females; however, when the fallen nature is allowed free reign, there is discord.




The female was made primarily to be loved by the male.




So the female was made primarily to be loved by the male. When Paul said, “Husband, above all else, love your wife. Don’t worry about other things before that, because you can take care of those things in due course. If you love her, you will take care of many other problems and potential problems in your marriage. When you give her the love she needs, she will function properly, because she was born to be loved.”




A woman will reflect the love or lack of love that she receives. When she is loved, she is better able to live a life of joy and peace, even in the midst of difficult circumstances. When she is unloved, it is as if there is a weight on her heart. Any man who violates a woman’s need for love is misusing and abusing Yah’s purpose for the woman. “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19)




The Woman Needs To Have Love Expressed Through Affection




Women need to have love continually expressed to them through affectionate words and gestures. We will look at this topic again in a later teaching on a woman’s emotional needs. Men are basically logical and unemotional in their outlook on life, and the have a tendency to treat women in the same manner. Yet because of the way women are designed, they interpret a man’s logical approach as coldness. Men need to learn how to love their wives in such a way that they can understand and receive their love. That is the key. Women have to be able to receive it. It isn’t enough for a man to think that he is giving a woman love; he needs to learn the ways in which she receives love. He needs to learn how women in general recognize love, and he needs to learn how his wife in particular recognizes love.




For example, a man stands before the minister and the congregation of witnesses on his wedding day, and tells his wife, “I love you. I will cherish you for the rest of my life, until death do us part.” Two months pass and his wife asks, “Do you still love me?” He replies, a little surprised, “I told you that two months ago.” Two years pass and she asks, “Do you still love me?” He will be puzzled and say, “I told you that two years ago.” Ten years pass. She says, “You haven’t told me you love me in the last ten years.” He replies, “Honey, I told you that ten years ago, and it still applies! I’ll let you know if I ever change my mind.” That’s not affection, that’s ignorance! A woman functions on love, she needs to hear it expressed often. Many women say that receiving gestures of kindness and affection on a regular basis from their husbands, such as physical affection, notes, and flowers, is what communicates love to them. It is not the expense of the gifts as muuch as the true thoughtfulness behind them and the consistency of receiving them that makes the difference.




Many men believe that they are expressing proper love to their wives by providing them with the essentials in life, such as shelter, food, and clothing, or by giving them expensive items, such as major appliances, cars, and even mink coats. Certainly, many men give these things out of a motivation of love; however, giving such material items is not the essence of love. Love does not say, “I bought you this house. What more do you want?”




What then is the nature of the love a man should show a woman?




A Woman Is To Be Loved as Hamachiach Loved The Church




“Husbands, love your wives, just as Hamachiach also loved the church and he gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify her” (Ephesians 5:25-26 NKJV.) If a man is going to love his wife, he has to keep company with Hamachiach. He has to find out how Hamachiach loved His church. It will take a life time to study that manual on love! He “gave Himself for her.” Then He sanctified her.




To sanctify something means to take it away from all else, set it apart in a special place, care for it every day, and value it as a priceless gem. To sanctify something means that you do not allow anything near it that would hurt or destroy it. It is set apart for special use. This means that you don’t pass it around. It is not available to entertain other people. “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with honor” (1 Peter 3:7). When a man really loves his wife, he considers her the crème de la crème. When she receives such love, she will reflect it in her countenance, the way she looks at life, and her interactions with others.




A man can help build a woman’s self-esteem.




These principles of a woman’s need to receive love have mainly been expressed in the setting of marriage relationship. However, they can be more broadly applied. Just as we talked about how women can be a spiritual help and encouragement not only to their husbands but also to other men they encounter in their lives, men can do the same for women. They can help build a woman’s self-esteem by valuing her and treating her with kindness and Hamachiach love. Women need the affirmation of men, just as men need the honor of women. This is particularly important for men to understand, since they are often in positions in authority over women-in the community, in the workplace, and in other realms of life- and they influence their perspectives and attitudes.




We can return to 1 Corinthians 13 as the man’s guide to honoring and affirming women in any interaction or relationship he has with them. Men need to remember that females who are under their authority or supervision need to be treated with consideration so that the nature that Yah has given them will not be quenched. Women often reflect the manner in which they are treated by men; if men reflect the love and nature of Hamachiach in their dealings with women, the women also can reflect the love and nature of Hamachiach.




The Woman Represents the Nature Of The Male




The second purpose of the female as reflector is to represent the nature of the male. She is to reflect the essence of all that Yah created the man to be in His image.




First Corinthians 11:7 says that the woman is the glory of the man. “A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of Yah; but the woman is the glory of man.”




When we think of glory, we often think of a cloud filled with light. Yet glory in the sense that we are talking about here has to do with the nature of something. Remember our discussion in an earlier teaching about how the sun, moon, and stars have their own kind of splendor or glory? In its larger meaning, the word glory can be ascribed to every single thing. The glory of something is its best expression of itself. One of the definitions of glory is “a distinguished quality or asset.” You can see a flower in its true glory when it is in full bloom. You can see the sun in its true glory at twelve noon. After that, it’s light begins to fade. The glory of a thing is when it is at its full, true self. Therefore, glory refers to the manifestation, or the exposure, of the true nature of something.




“For Yah, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of Yah in the face of Yahusha Hamachiach” (2 Corinthians 4:6). “Whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of Yah” (1 Corinthians 10:31). When the bible says that humanity is meant to show the glory of Yah, it does not mean just lifting one’s hands and saying, “HalleluYah!” That is praise, but it is not glory in the sense in which we are speaking. Reflecting the glory of Yah means reflecting His true nature. Yah’s glory is often best manifested when we respond in a Hamachiach way in a difficult situation. For example, when somebody rubs you the wrong way at your job, Yah is saying to you, “Let the glory come out now. Let people see what Yah is like under pressure.”




Therefore, the glory of something is the manifestation of its true and best nature.




The female and the male each have a different kind of glory. The male is to reflect the “image and glory of Yah” (! Corinthians 11:7), while “the woman is the glory of man” (v.7). The Word of Yah is stating a profound truth. Essentially, it means that if you want to know what a man is like, don’t look at the man, look at the woman who is reflecting him. This means that, if you don’t like the way women are, the responsibility for it falls on the men. The women are reflecting the men. Of course, each individual is responsible before Yah for his or her own actions. For example, a woman may reflect her own selfishness rather than her husband’s kindness. Solomon said, “A wife of noble character is her husband’s crown, but a disgraceful wife is like decay in his bones” (Proverbs 12:4). This verse shows the powerful influence a woman can have in a man’s life. Yet men have a great responsibility to truly reflect the image and glory of Yah so that this can be reflected to the women in their lives, and so that the women can reflect Yah’s glory in turn.

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You can tell what the men in our society are like by observing women.




I have noticed that when a man gets married, he often reveals what kind of man he is by what his wife is like. If you are a woman who has an interest in a man and want to know what he is really like, don’t ask his father or his brothers; talk to his sisters and his mother. Usually, when a man’s mother has a good report about him, he’s okay. The Bible says it is unnatural for a mother to forget the baby she has nursed (Isaiah 49:15).




You can tell what the men in our society are like by observing the women. Look at our homes; who is running them? The women are often heading them by themselves. What does that tell you about the man? He is not being spiritually responsible, because he is not fulfilling his purpose and position as head of the household. Look at our children; what is their hope for the future? Many of them are directionless. What do they tell you about the man? He is not providing them with vision. Look at the women; more of them are employed than are the men. What does this tell you about the man? He is not fulfilling his purpose. The female- and often the children, as well show you what the male is like.




If a man’s wife is always depressed, angry, sad, or grouchy, it often means that she is reflecting the treatment she is receiving from her husband. A woman should be able to grow in grace and become a better person as a result of being with her husband.




The Bride of Hamachiach




When we look at the spiritual aspects of these principles, we see that Yahusha also has a bride who is meant to reflect His nature. In the original Greek, her name is ekklesia. The English translation of this word is “church.” Yahusha sent the church into the world to be a reflection of Himself. He said to His bride, “The world will know who I am and that I was sent by the Abba by the way in which you act, by your unity with one another. The world isn’t going to come to Me to find out what I’m like; the world is going to come to the bride. If you don’t love one another, they’ll never know what I’m like.” (See John 13:34-35; 17:21-23.)




Do you know why the people of the world aren’t coming to Yahusha as much as they should? It is because the church as a whole is often a terrible witness, and it is because individual marriages aren’t reflecting Yah’s glory. We are not living in the love and unity that Hamachiach said would reveal His nature to the world. Therefore, while the church is to reflect Hamachiach as His bride, it often does not do so. The Bible tells us that this is unnatural. Yahusha is the perfect husband and deserves to have His true nature reflected in His bride. The glory of The Most High is meant to be in the church.




Reflecting Yah to the World




And, we, who with unveiled faces all reflect the Most High’s glory, are being transformed into his likeness with ever-increasing glory, which comes from The Most High, who is the Spirit. (2 Corinthians 3:18)




A marriage is a church within the church.




It has often been said that a marriage is a church within the church. If the world isn’t seeing the nature of Hamachiach through the church in the way that it should, perhaps we should begin to correct this problem by first looking at our homes, at the relationships between husbands and wives, fathers and daughters, brothers and sisters. We should then look at the nature of our friendships and the relationships between men and women in the community.




The woman’s role as reflector of the man’s love and nature can powerfullly reveal Yah’s remarkable love for humanity. She can show her family, her community, and the world what it means to be loved by Yah and to bear the image of the Creator. She can be a witness to the world of Yah’s compassion and sacrifice for man, and of the joy and healing we can receive through His love.




However, the male has a great responsibility in this calling, for if he does not give love that the female can receive and reflect; if he does not reflect the nature of Yah, then the witness of the family and of the community is greatly weakened.




With the redemption of Hamachiach, the dominion mandate of man expanded to include a mandate for redeemed man, the church, to cultivate the world’s people for Yah. Yahusha said to His disciples of those in the world who are lost, “Open your eyes and look at the fields! They are ripe for harvest” (John 4:35). If men and women realize the powerful impact of their relationships on the salvation of the world, they will prayerfully and seriously consider how the dominion mandate can be fulfilled as they give and reflect Yah’s love and nature in their day-to-day relationships.




Principles


The single most important reason that the female was created was so that she could receive love.


The first purpose of the female as reflector is that she was made to be the object of the male’s love and to reflect the love that he gives her.


Yah has designed the woman to function on love.


The Bible tells the man to love the woman, but it does not tell the woman to love the man. It instructs her to submit to and to honor him.


A woman will reflect the love or lack of love she receives from a man.


Women need to have love continually expressed to them through affectionate words and gestures.


Many men believe that they are expressing proper love to their wives by providing them with the essentials in life or by giving them expensive gifts. This does not express true love.


If a man is going to love his wife, he has to keep company with Hamachiach. He has to find out how Hamachiach loved his church.


A man is to “sanctify” his wife: set her apart in his heart and life and value her as a precious gem.


Men are often in positions of authority over women, and they influence their perspectives and attitudes. They should treat the woman with kindness and love so they won’t quench her Yah-given nature.


The second purpose of the female as reflector is to represent the nature of the male. She is to reflect the essence of all that Yah created the man to be in His image.


Glory refers to the manifestation, or the exposure, of the true nature of something.


The male reflects the image and glory of Yah, while the female reflects the glory of the man.


If you want to know what a man is like, don’t look at the man, look at the woman who is reflecting him.


Yahusha sent the church into the world to be a reflection of Himself.


The woman’s role as reflector of the man’s love and nature can powerfully reveal Yah’s remarkable love for humanity to the world.

THE WOMAN'S PROVISION!!!!

Genesis chapter 2







Today we are walking in: The Woman's Provision




Today we look to the word-FULFILL- H4390 male'--to fill, be full; to be full, fulness, abundance, be accomplished, be ended, to consecrate, to satisfy









The Torah testifies...............





Genesis 29:21

And Jacob said unto Laban, Give me my wife, for my days are fulfilled, H4390 that I may go in unto her.




Genesis 29:27

Fulfil H4390 her week, and we will give thee this also for the service which thou shalt serve with me yet seven other years.





The prophets proclaim..................






2 Samuel 7:12

And when thy days be fulfilled, H4390 and thou shalt sleep with thy fathers, I will set up thy seed after thee, which shall proceed out of thy bowels, and I will establish his kingdom.






Jeremiah 44:25

Thus saith the LORD of hosts, the God of Israel, saying; Ye and your wives have both spoken with your mouths, and fulfilled H4390 with your hand, saying, We will surely perform our vows that we have vowed, to burn incense to the queen of heaven, and to pour out drink offerings unto her: ye will surely accomplish your vows, and surely perform your vows.






The writings bear witness...........................





1 Kings 8:24

Who hast kept with thy servant David my father that thou promisedst him: thou spakest also with thy mouth, and hast fulfilled H4390 it with thine hand, as it is this day.






2 Chronicles 36:21

To fulfil H4390 the word of the LORD by the mouth of Jeremiah, until the land had enjoyed her sabbaths: for as long as she lay desolate she kept sabbath, to fulfil H4390 threescore and ten years.







The Woman’s Provision




The source is responsible for the product.




Let’s look now at some additional implications of the man’s headship over the woman. The statement,”Man did not come from woman, but woman from man” (1 Corinthians 11:8), means that the source is responsible for the product. If Ford produces a car, Ford has to take responsibility for the car. Similarly, the man is responsible for the woman, because she came from man. This is Yah’s original plan. Now, if a man starts thinking that this is his plan, rather than Yah’s, his responsibility for the woman will turn into domination over the woman. We have to understand that this is Yah’s design, or we will misuse and abuse it.




The man is responsible for providing for the woman because of his position in the relationship of things. The woman is always supposed to be able to go to her source to receive whatever she needs. There is a parallel to this in the spiritual realm. Spiritually, we are to go to Yah for what we need. Yahusha has told us, “I am the Vine, you are the branches, which receive nourishment from the Vine. Remain in Me.” (See John 15:4-5.) So it is with the female and male.




Yah says that the woman should remain connected to her source. She should be able to go to the man and get answers. If you are a married woman, and you have a question, ask your husband. If he doesn’t have the answer, then go to the next man who is in godly authority. This also applies to a woman who is not married. The man could be your father, your pastor, or your big brother in The Most High, as long as it is someone who represents Yah as source and provider. That person should be able to give you guidance. Of course, a woman’s ultimate Source and Provider is Yah, and she can always turn to Him. But Yah has designed things so that the female can receive earthly provision through the male.




“Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man” (1 Corinthians 11:9). Have you noticed the mystery in this statement? The man was not made for the woman, but the woman for the man. This means that the woman was made for whatever the man has. All of his money- she was made for it. All of his vision- she was made for it. All of his dreams- she was made to help bring them to pass. All of his hopes- she was made to help see that they become reality. She was made for everything about the man. This means that when a man buys a car, she drives it. When he receives a bonus, she shares it. It’s like when a man takes his wife out for dinner and says, “What do you want? I’ll buy you anything on the menu.” After they order and their meals come, she looks over at his dinner and says, “Hmmm. That looks really good.” So she ends up eating his dinner instead of the one she ordered. Does that sound familiar? Whatever the man has, she was made for it.




The woman was made for everything the man has. Her mental faculties were made for him. Her physical body was made for him. Everything in the female was made for the man, including her intellectual ability. How many men believe this? A woman’s mind is an awesome machine. Yah gave the women a way of thinking that will amaze you. If you take a little thought, a little idea, and drop it into a woman’s mind, you’ll never get a simple idea back- you’ll get a fully developed plan. Do you know why many men turn the running of the home over to their wives? A woman can take a mortgage that’s overdue or a business that’s falling apart, and say, “You sit down; let me handle this.” She knows how to get you through these things. She can dig you out of a hole. The sad thing is that when some men get out of the hole, they proceed to walk over their wives. The unique qualities and contributions of the woman must be valued by the man.




The Woman’s Interdependence




“In the Most High, however, woman is not independent of man, nor is man independent of woman. For as woman came from man, so also man is born of woman. But everything comes from Yah” (1 Corinthians 11:11-12). Everything comes full cycle. After all that Paul had said up to this point, he then placed both male and female in the same spiritual position. He said, “In the Most High, both man and woman are the same. Woman came from man, but no man comes into this world unless he is born of a woman. Yah has ordained both the spiritual and the physical realms, and each has its purpose.”




Again, spiritually, women and men are equal. A husband and wife are equal before The Most High. She can go before the Most High and get the same spiritual help that the man gets. She doesn’t need to go through her husband. That is why, if you are a single mother, your spirit can go to Yah and do business with Him. You don’t need to get permission from man to go to Yah; you have a spirit-man within.




“At work, I’m the boss, but at home, I’m a wife.”




The essence of the matter is this: in the spiritual realm, there is no difference between men and women, but in the physical realm, there has to be the proper relationship of submission. I was speaking to a precious lady who has a management job at an insurance company. She told me, “You know, at work, I’m the boss. Yet when I walk through the door into my home, I’m a wife.” That’s a smart woman. Of course, you can be the boss at work. But when you get home, you’re a wife. That means you can’t treat your husband like your employees at the office. An altogether different authority takes over. You can preach all you want, prophecy, rebuke HaSatan, and cast out twenty thousand demons; however when you go home, your husband is in authority. Yet he has to understand that he’s still supposed to be in the Most High when he’s in the home. A woman should not be subjected to pride and foolishness from her husband when she is in the home.




The Woman Is Physically Different




Fourth, a woman is unique because she is physically different from man. She is a spirit-man with a female body.





The Woman Is Delicate




First Peter 3:7 says, “Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life.”




The woman is unique because she is a physical being who is “weaker.” The word “weaker” here isn’t referring just to physical strength, because many women are stronger than many men. Women can out up with much more adversity and still survive. Many men couldn’t handle what women handle. I like to translate the word “weaker” as “more delicate.” Peter was saying, Husband, treat your wife with consideration and honor, because Yah designed her in such a way that she is delicate. She is very, very fine.”




Remember that Yah took a scoop of dirt with which to fashion the male, but He built the woman. Yah built the female a little more elegantly. Her shape is a little more refined than a man’s. He designed her delicately. I believe this also refers to the delicacy of her soul. The expression of a woman’s soul is very refined because of her purpose; she is more sensitive.




I believe that the definition of “weaker” should go even deeper to indicate that the woman is more “absorbent.” She can absorb things more easily than a man, because she was created to absorb. That is why Yah told the husband to be careful what he treated her. Why? She is so delicate that she absorbs everything around her.




The Woman Is a “Wombed-Man”




Some women want to be the same as a man both spiritually and physically. However, Yah didn’t make the female to be the same as the male. He made her physically different to fulfill a purpose. Purpose determines design, and design determines needs. A man’s physical purpose and a woman’s physical purpose are different. If men and women don’t understand this, and they try to become the same, there are going to be problems.




Yah designed the female to be physically different from the male so that she could bear the offspring of the race. She is the “wombed-man.” She was meant to receive the seed of the man, conceive, and carry the child until it is born. In this way, Yah entrusted the woman with a major role in the furtherance and survival of the human race. The purpose of something determines its design, and Yah designed everything to fulfill its purpose. If you know the purpose of something, you can appreciate why the design is different. The female’s purpose is distinct from the male’s purpose- she is designed to bear children- and therefore Yah made each of them unique.




The Woman’s Nature Is Inborn




What has been happening in our society, however, is that people have been trying to change their designs. There are women who want to be like men, and there are men who want to be like women. Yah is saying to them, “You don’t have the circuits for it.” To pursue these desires is the equivalent of short-circuiting. People are living static lives in which they don’t know their purpose. They can’t appreciate why people are different.




Imagine a car battery saying, “I want to be a carburetor,” and trying to function as a carburetor. The car won’t work. Batteries and carburetors are different because they have different functions. Although their differences make them valuable, a carburetor isn’t anything without a battery. No matter how they might feel about one another, they still need each other, because they are both integral parts of something larger- the car. We must understand that males and females are all part of something larger, called man. Yet they are different, because they have different purposes.




We shouldn’t confuse numbers with normalcy.




If you are not sure that you are a female, Yah has provided you with physical evidence so that you may know. If you were born with a female reproductive system, you are a female. If you were not, you are a male. How you feel and whom you prefer to sleep with are not relevant. These things don’t make you a woman or a man. Your feelings do not bring dignity to that which is unnatural. The fact that many people are doing something does not mean that it is right. We shouldn’t confuse numbers with normalcy. If enough of us are abnormal, we’ll believe that we are normal. Don’t let anybody fool you into believing that you’re something that you’re not. You should look to your design.




The male is designed to provide seed for the purpose of procreation. Therefore, if you are not sure that you are a female, check to see if you were meant to provide sperm. If you were not, then you are a woman. Whether or not you can provide a climax is not the issue. If you are not a male, you should live as the woman you were designed to be, so that you can fulfill your true purpose.




Forget all the psychological, emotional, and sociological explanations. The only qualification for being a specific gender is to be born with the organs that enable you to fulfill the purpose of that gender. Having an operation and changing your sex organs does not change your nature. If you change your sex organs, it is just like having a kidney transplant. You are still who you were born to be. If a male receives a female’s kidney in a kidney transplant, he’s still a man.




So spiritually, we deal with the spirit-man within us, but physically, we deal with male and female. Yah is so wonderful. He set things up so that the relationship between Yah and man is intended to be expressed through the relationship between male and female. In this way, what is unseen can be understood through what is seen. The Bible refers to Yahusha as the Bridegroom and the church as His bride. Yah is giving us an earthly and physical illustration to communicate the spiritual truth of our relationship and unity with Him. Therefore, we need to appreciate our creation as males and females, designed specifically for Yah’s love and His purposes in this world. “For we are Yah’s workmanship, created in Hamachiach Yahusha to do good works, which Yah prepared in advance for us to do” (Ephesians 2:10).




The Woman Was Placed in the Garden




A woman cannot fulfill her purpose unless she is in relationship with Yah.




Fifth, a woman is unique because Yah specifically placed her in the Garden of Eden along with the man. In Genesis 3:8, we read that Yah walked in the Garden in the cool of the day in order to meet with Adam and Eve. The Garden represents man’s relationship with Yah, the place of fellowship. A woman cannot fulfill her purpose unless she is in relationship with Yah. You cannot be the kind of woman you are supposed to be outside of Yah, anymore than a man can be anything outside of Yah. Any woman who is outside a relationship with The Most High is a dangerous woman, just as a man who is outside a relationship with The Most High is dangerous. You can be who you were created to be, and you can fulfill the purpose you were meant to fulfill, only as long as you remain in the garden of fellowship with Yah.




A female cannot become what Yah intended unless she is filled with the Ruach Hackodesh, submits to the Word, and begins to follow the leading of the Ruach. Many of the woman of today are not living godly lives. They are not in the garden; they are in the wilderness. Many men are in the same situation.




Do you remember what happened when Adam and Eve Rebelled against Yah? What did Yah do? He put them out of the Garden. A garden is a specifically manicured, prepared place. Outside the garden is wilderness. Wilderness people are wild; they devour one another. Yah wants us to be transformed by the renewing of our minds and get out of the wilderness (Romans 12:2).




You need an ongoing, intimate relationship with Yah in order to become the woman you were created to be. You can’t just read popular women's magazines or watch talk shows and expect to get revelation from Yah. These sources are usually headed deeper and deeper into the wilderness. They’re leading you into perversion and depravity. The wilderness mentality of women is, “I don’t need anybody else. I’m going to make it on my own. I don’t care what anyone says; I don’t need any man.”




Yah says that’s wilderness talk. I believe you know that’s wilderness talk because deep inside, you have a garden desire. You need to be in relationship with Yah,and you need to be in relationship with men- with a husband or with your brothers in The Most High in order to be what you were created to be.




This is the ideal, and Yah wants you to work back to it. He wants you to have the spirit of the Garden so that you will be in continual fellowship with Him. Then you will be able to experience fulfillment both as a spiritual being created in Yah’s image, and as a female, created for good Yah’s purposes.




You are Yah’s good idea, and His unique creation.




Principles




A woman is Yah’s idea


A woman’s uniqueness is a reflection of Yah’s purpose and design for her.


The woman has a spirit within her, making her a free and responsible spiritual being.


When you don’t treat a woman right, you have interfered with the spirit-man in the female.


The female was taken out of the male


The woman needs to stay connected to her source.


A husband should love himself.


The head of the man is Hamachiach, the head of the woman is the man, and the head of Hamachiach is Yah.


Hamachiach is our model of submission.


A woman isn’t less than her husband, but for Yah’s purposes, It is her position to submit.


Submission activates Heaven


The man is the woman’s covering.


The source is responsible for the product.


The woman was made for everything the man has.


In the spiritual realm, there is no difference between men and women; but in the physical realm, there has to be the proper relationship of submission.


The woman is “weaker” than the man: delicate, sensitive, and absorbent.


The woman was made physically different from the man so that she can bear the offspring of the race.


If you are not sure whether you are a female or a male, the evidence is in your physical design.


The relationship between Yah and man is intended to be expressed through the relationship between male and female.


The woman was placed in the Garden along with the male.


A woman cannot fulfill her purpose unless she is in relationship with Yah.

THE WOMAN'S ORIGIN!!!!

Proverbs chapter 31







Today we are walking in: The Woman's Origin







Today we look to the word-SUBMIT- H6031 `anah, to humble oneself, submit





The Torah Testifies………….




Genesis 16:9




And the angel of the LORD said unto her, Return to thy mistress, and submit H6031 thyself under her hands.






The Prophets Proclaim…………..




2 Samuel 22:45




Strangers shall submit H6031 themselves unto me: as soon as they hear, they shall be obedient unto me.







The Writings bear Witness………..





Psalms 18:44


As soon as they hear of me, they shall obey me: the strangers shall submit H6031 themselves unto me.







The Woman Was “Taken out of Man”




Third, the woman is unique because she was taken out of man.




The Woman’s Origin




First Corinthians 11:8 says, “Man did not come from woman, but woman from man.” According to our Manufacturer, man was taken out of the soil, but woman was taken out of man. The implications of this are striking and significant. Something that has been taken from something else has the same components as that from which it was derived. Adam wasn’t ignorant of who the woman was. He said, “This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh” (Genesis 2:23). She was part of him; she was like him. He said, “She shall be called ‘woman’” (v.23). Why? “For she was taken out of man” (v.23).




The female is what she is because she came out of what the male is. Remember that man is spirit because man came out of Yah, who is Spirit. Therefore, humanity must stay connected to Yah in order to have spiritual life. In the same way, since woman came out of man, she needs to stay connected to man in order to live the life she was created to live. Any woman who decides that she is an island unto herself is going to become a volcano before too long.




A man really can’t get upset about what a woman is. He can’t forget the material of which she is made- the same material of which he is made. Because of this, she should be valued and loved by the man.




Husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. After all, no one ever hated his own body, but he feeds and cares for it, just as Hamachiach does the church-for we are members of his body. (Ephesians 5:28-30)




Paul said that if you take proper care of your body, it shows that you love yourself. A husband is to love his wife as he loves himself, as his own body. However, too often we fail to apply this principle in marriage, and in the general relationships of men and women. Males and females are of the same essence and therefore should respect, honor and love one another. Yahusha reinforced this principle when He said that one of the greatest commandments is “Love your neighbor as yourself” (Matthew 19:19). If we really understood this truth, there would be more patience, understanding, and forgiveness among men and women.






The Woman’s Position




“Man did not come from woman, but woman from man” (1 Corinthians 11:8). The entire eleventh chapter of 1 Corinthians is talking about the position of men and women and about the male-female relationship. It’s talking about authority.




Some people feel that Paul was being a chauvinist when he made the above statement. Rather, he was referring to the creation of male and female. He made an important distinction between the spiritual position of men and women and the male-female relationship. In doing so, he used a spiritual example because he did not want his statements to be misinterpreted.




Some people feel that Paul was a chauvinist.




Paul was saying, in effect, “Look, some of you women think that I am trying to put you down or say that you are inferior. Therefore, in order to make myself clear, let me explain to both men and women the true nature of authority.” In verse three, he said, “Now I want you to realize that the head of every man is Hamachiach.” So first we see that the man has a head to whom he is responsible. He is under the headship of Hamachiach. Verse three continues, “And the head of the woman is man.” The woman also has a head. She is responsible to the man. The verse concludes, “And the head of Hamachiach is Yah.” Paul was expressing this idea: “If you think you don’t like being under somebody else’s authority, you will have to tell Yahusha to move out from under Abba's authority. Until you become better than Yahusha, the best thing to do is to stay under your authority.”




A woman may be smarter, have more education, work a more prestigious job, or make more money than a man. Yet for the man to fulfill his role, she needs to submit to him. Submission is an act of the will, a choice. A woman should submit to a man, not because society says so, but because of her purpose. In this way, she enables her husband to be a leader.




There is an evil spirit abroad in the world today in which nobody wants to be under anybody else. This satanic spirit has taken over our society. Yet Yahusha Himself gave us our model of authority and submission when He submitted to His Father. Philippians 2:6-8 says,




[Yahusha] being in very nature Yah, did not consider equality with Yah something to be grasped, but made himself nothing, taking the very nature of a servant, being made in human likeness. And being found in appearance as a man, he humbled himself and became obedient to death-even death on a crucifixion stake!




Even though Yahusha is equal to Yah, He submitted Himself to the Abba and to the Abba’s plan. The prophet Isaiah talked about both the deity and humility of Yah the Son. He said, in essence, “You aren’t going to believe this report. A Son will be born, and His name shall be called Wonderful Counselor, the Mighty Yah.” (See Isaiah 9:6.)




We might well ask, “But Isaiah, you just said, ‘For unto us a child is born, unto us a Son is given’ (v. 6 NKJV). What do you mean that this Child, this Son, will be called Mighty Yah? How can He be Yah and Son?”




Isaiah’s answer would be, “He is Yah, but He took on the position of Man and Servant for the sake of your redemption.”




Purpose necessitated the position. The purpose of Yah was redemption. The Yah-head said, “Somebody has to go down and submit to us in order to bring about the salvation of man.” So the Word of Yah, who is Yah Himself, said, “I’ll go. I know I am an equal in the Yahhead, but for this purpose of redemption, I will be made in the likeness of man and will submit.”




Yahusha is not inferior to Yah; They are equal. But for the purpose of salvation, He submitted Himself to a position in which He could fulfill the requirement of salvation. Similarly, a woman isn’t any less than her husband; however, for Yah’s purposes, it is her position to submit.




Do you know why marriages and relationships and society aren’t working? It is because people are refusing to accept their positions. What if the tires on your car decided they wanted to take on the role of the steering wheel? The whole car wouldn’t be able to move. This is the stalemate that our society is in. Everybody wants the same position. Nobody wants to trust anybody.




Many of you women have had your hearts broken in the past by unsympathetic and domineering men. Yah has compassion on you. He has made provision for your hurt through the grace and blood of Yahusha Hamachiach and the healing power of His Ruach Hackodesh. Yet your hurt can’t change Yah’s original design for males and females. He can’t alter His design based on your ideas of what a relationship should be, even though you have had painful experiences.




Some of our problems are the result of our own ignorance. The reason things haven’t worked out for some of us is that we made the wrong decision in the beginning.




You have to understand your position. First Corinthians 11:5-6 says,




Every woman who prays or prophesies with her head uncovered dishonors her head- it is just as though her head were shaved. If a woman does not cover her head, she should have her hair cut off; and if it is a disgrace for a woman to have her hair cut or shaved off, she should cover her head.




Paul was using an illustration to explain the concept of position. A woman should have her head covered, just like a man should have his head covered, just like Hamachiach should have his head covered. Head covering doesn’t ultimately refer to hats or veils. Wearing a hat is good, but it doesn’t make you any more righteous. Paul was talking about the nature of authority. He was saying, “Look, the man is under Yahusha, and Yahusha is under the Abba. The woman is under the man, and the children are under both of them.” Woman was taken out of man, which means that man is her covering by virtue of the way she was created. There is no way to change this. Every time we try to change Yah’s purposes, we cause ourselves problems.




Your position has to do with your purpose and design.




Our positions have nothing to do with how we feel about them; they have to do with our purpose. What is your purpose? That determines where you are placed. “For man did not come from woman, but woman from man; neither was man created for woman, but woman for man” (1 Corinthians 11:8-9). Yah created man and placed him within the male and female. Then He subjected the male to Hamachiach Yahushua, and the female to the male. If we do not understand our positions, we will function in ignorance, and the results will be pain and destruction. People perish because of lack of knowledge (Proverbs 29:18).




I suggest to you men that you have no right to have your wife submit to you if you yourself don’t submit to anybody else. You are exercising illegal authority if you are demanding submission without being submitted. As a matter of fact, you can’t really discipline your children if you’re not disciplined yourself and that goes for both men and women. Stop believing you can discipline your children when you show no discipline yourself.




The male-man needs to be under authority before he is able to exercise it properly. It’s impossible for you to say you are the head of a home when you aren’t submitted to anyone else. The head of Hamachiach is Yah, and the head of man is Hamachiach, and the head of woman is man. Any man who is out from under Hamachiach is not really a qualified authority. The most dangerous man to marry is a man who isn’t submitted to The Most High Yah, who believes he is the ultimate boss and won’t answer to anyone. If a man has to answer to, then his wife has someone to whom to appeal.




A woman might not be able to get through to her husband. Some of you are married to such males. They are so stubborn, their heads are as hard as rocks. But if a man is submitted to Yah, you can deal with him from the top down.




Remember what Esther did? She wanted to effect a change in her country, but she was afraid to go to her husband, the king. So she went to Yah, and Yah gave her wisdom about what to do. He gave her a plan, and the plan worked (See Esther 1-10.) You can appeal to the one whose authority the man is under. That is why it is good to have a husband who is responsible to Yah.




“A man ought not to cover his head, since he is the image and glory of Yah; but the woman is the glory of man” (1 Corinthians 11:7). Paul was saying that once the man is covered with Hamachiach, his marriage is under authority. However, the woman then needs the man to cover her. First Corinthians 11:9 says, “Neither was man created for woman, but woman for man. For this reason, and because of the angels, the woman ought to have a sign of authority on her head.”




What do messengers have to do with this? You could substitute the term “spirit world” or “spirit realm” for the word “messengers.” Paul is saying to the female, “When you start functioning in the kingdom of Yah, you must be careful, because even the messengers will look to see if you are under authority before they will submit to your request. Because of the messengers, because the spirits, you must submit to your authority. Why? If you don’t, the spirits will not submit to you. They won’t do what you ask, and you will lose your spiritual authority.”




Submission activates heaven.




If you are a female, and you want to do a work for Yah, all of heaven is ready to work for you. Yah says, “All right, we’ll do spiritual work, but how are your relationships in the natural realm?” Any woman who goes on a missionary journey saying, “I don’t need the community; I can do this by myself,” isn’t going to find any messengers supporting her. She can pray, wear a hat, and carry a big Bible. It won’t mean anything to the messengers. The messengers are looking for your authority. They will ask, “Who are you under? How can you tell us what to do when you yourself aren’t under anybody?” Submission activates heaven.




Consider the examples of Hamachiach again. How did He submit Himself as a man? When He went to John the Baptist to be baptized, John was in charge. Yahusha told him, in effect, “John, you have to do this. You’re the one on the scene right now. I understand authority, so you need to baptize Me.” John said, “You should baptize me!” Yahusha answered, “No, because if you don’t baptize Me, the messengers aren’t going to cooperate with Me, so that I can fulfill what Yah has ordained.” (See Matthew 3:14-17).




Now, if Hamachiach submitted because of heaven, who do we think we are? You may be independent, famous, a fantastic business person, and doing very well. However, if you aren’t going to submit to anyone, I have problems with you, because heaven doesn’t trust you. Don’t ever believe that you can run off and do Yah’s work without being in submission. Don’t ever run away from a ministry and do your own work because somebody made you upset. The messengers are watching. You can actually remove Yah’s protective covering from yourself when you move out from under your authority. This principle applies to both males and females.




Everyone should be connected with a local community or ministry because of the need for submission. I know people who say, “My pastor is a TV preacher.” But a person can’t have a relationship of spiritual submission with a TV preacher. At five o’clock on a Tuesday afternoon, when you need the Pastor, the TV program isn’t on. Who is your pastor then? Covering is a key to Yah’s resources. If you’re covered, He’ll bless you.

THE UNIQUENESS OF WOMAN!!!!!

Genesis chapter 2




Today we are walking in: The Uniqueness of Woman!!!







Today we look to the word-SPIRIT- H7307-RUWACH-wind; by resemblance breath, i.e. a sensible (or even violent) exhalation; figuratively, life, anger, unsubstantiality; by extension, a region of the sky; by resemblance spirit, but only of a rational being:—air, anger, blast, breath,







The Torah Testifies……………………….




Genesis 1:2




And the earth was without form, and void; and darkness was upon the face of the deep. And the Spirit H7307 of God moved upon the face of the waters.











The Prophets Proclaim……………………….




Haggai 1:14




And the LORD stirred up the spirit H7307 of Zerubbabel the son of Shealtiel, governor of Judah, and the spirit H7307 of Joshua the son of Josedech, the high priest, and the spirit H7307 of all the remnant of the people; and they came and did work in the house of the LORD of hosts, their God,
















The Writings Witness………………………..







Psalm 34:18


The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart; and saveth such as be of a contrite spirit. H7307







The sun has one kind of splendor, the moon another and the stars another; and star differs from star in splendor. (1 Corinthians 15:41)




Yah did not create the woman as an afterthought, but as an integral part of His plan in creation. As such, He designed and built her in love and with particular care. Her uniqueness is a reflection of Yah’s purposes and design for her.




The principles in this teaching are not a complete list of the woman’s uniqueness. Other teachings will cover additional aspects of her distinct nature, such as her primary communication style and emotional needs. However, the following principles highlight important truths about the woman’s nature that are essential for us to understand as we learn to know, value and encourage women in what she was created to be.




The female is unique in five significant ways.




The Woman Is Yah’s Idea




First, a woman is unique because she is Yah’s idea.




Women, you don’t understand how special you are. Adam hadn’t even imagined the woman, but Yah had her particularly in mind. In Genesis 2:18, Yah said, “It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.” Adam was fumbling around in the bush thinking up animals’ names. Yah said, “This is not good. This man needs help.” So it was Yah who said that the man needed the woman. She was Yah’s idea.




A woman is a product of Yah; this makes her Yah’s property. If you handle her, you are handling Yah’s idea. If you curse at a woman, you are cursing at Yah’s idea. If you slap a woman, you are slapping Yah’s idea in the face. If you abandon a woman, you are abandoning Yah’s idea.




Women, no matter what men might say about you, no matter what you might think about yourself, you are a good idea. Yah’s mind thought of you, and Yah’s Spirit brought you into being. You are the result of Yah’s idea, and that makes you very valuable to Him.




The Woman Has A Spirit Inside




Second, a woman is unique because she has a spirit inside. This makes her a free and responsible spiritual being.




A woman has her own spirit-being with which to worship Yah.




You can’t imagine the power that you will have when you understand the spirit that is inside of you. Spiritually, men and women are equal; they have the same spirit-man within. Yah called both male and female “man.” I like the way the Word of Yah expresses it: “There is neither… slave nor free, male or female in the body of Hamachiach” (Galatians 3:28). Yah doesn’t look down from heaven today and say, “There are many women and men down there.” He says, “There is a lot of man down there.”




First Peter 3:4 says that a woman’s beauty “should be that of [her] inner self, the unfading beauty of a GENTLE and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in Yah’s sight. “It is this “inner self” that is a woman’s spirit. What the woman is physically is different from what she is in her inner self. The spirit-man inside every woman is the being that relates to Yah. The next time you women run into somebody who is confused about this concept, just tell them, “Look, I have a female body, but I have a spirit-man inside. I’m female because of what I have to do physically and in Yah’s kingdom on the planet; however, I deal directly with Yah as a spirit.”




Yahusha said, “Yah is spirit, and his worshippers must worship in spirit and in truth” (John 4:24). A woman has her own spirit-being with which to worship Yah. She can bless The Most High and love The Most High and receive from The Most High herself. A woman can preach, not because she’s female, but because she has a spirit-man within her.




Because a spirit-man lives within the woman, the treatment of the woman by the man has to be taken very seriously. Yah honors and respects the woman. He loves and identifies with the spirit-man inside the female, and so He takes special care in regard to her. When you have offended the spirit-man, you have offended Yah. You have to be careful what you do to the spirit within either the male or the female.




Some men forget that there is a spirit-man inside the woman. If a man impatiently tells a female, “I don’t like your moods,” he should check to whom he is speaking. There is a spirit inside that precious body. One reason why the Bible tells us not to go to sleep without resolving our anger (Ephesians 4:26) is that it’s very important to treat well those who have been created in the image of Yah. James reinforced this theme: “With the tongue we praise our Most High and Abba, and with it we curse men, who have been made in Yah’s likeness” (James 3:9). You see, anger or resentment is a spiritual matter. It’s not a physical concern; it’s a spiritual one.




Thus, when people walk around with anger at other people because they didn’t do something you think they should have done, you should pray! Why? You are dealing with a spirit. Some people say, “I could never forgive you.” Yet the Spirit of Yah within us can do anything. The ego might have a problem with it, but the spirit can forgive.




We should deal with each other very delicately, for if you don’t, Yah says that your prayers won’t be answered. This is not a light matter. The Bible says that we should treat each other with sensitivity and consideration. If you don’t, your prayers could be hindered.




Yah is saying to men and women, “Wait a minute. You aren’t just a body of flesh. You have a spirit. The way you treat others will affect your prayer life.” Therefore, if you don’t treat everyone with consideration and honor, it could block your relationship with Yah. Yah won’t hear your prayers until you go back and make things right with them, because you have interfered with the spirit-man in that person whether they were wrong or right.




Some people think they can slap their spouses around and then go to service as if nothing had happened.




Some people think they can slap their spouses around and then go to service as if nothing had happened. Yah isn’t buying it. Some people think they can do something to hurt another person and then go ahead and become a Prophet. Yah isn’t listening to their prayers. Mistreating a man or a woman is a serious thing because Yah deals with our spirit in spirit and in truth. He has so much honor for us that He defends us when we are misused.




Yahusha said that if you go to worship Yah and, while you are offering your gift, you remember that there is a broken relationship in your life that needs to be mended, you must leave your offering right there at the altar and go and make things right. Then you can come back and offer your gift. You shouldn’t try to offer it beforehand, because Yah won’t accept it (Matthew 5:22-24). Yahusha also talked about the importance of forgiveness in our relationships. He said that if you do not forgive someone who has something against you, or whom you have something against, then the Abba will not forgive you and will not hear you (Matthew 6:14-15).




Yahusha was saying that relationships with other people are even more important than worship, because you cannot worship except in the context of your relationships. It doesn’t matter how serious and sincere you are about Yah. It doesn’t matter how much of the Ruach Hackodesh you possess or how much Scripture you’ve learned. Yah is not overly impressed by your ability to articulate your worship, prayer, or praise. His reception of your worship-whether it is through your giving, your praise, your study, your administration of the kingdom of Yah, or your ministry- is contingent upon your relationships with others. So if you want to give Yah your heart through study of His word, whether or not Yah receives it depends on whether or not you are in right relationship with others.




This truth brings the matter of right relationships between men and women down to where it hurts, doesn’t it? We need to clearly understand what Yah’s Word says about the value of men and women, as well as His purpose for men and women, so that we have no excuse for not mending our broken relationships.




Can you imagine people stopping in the middle of worship and stepping outside with someone to make things right with them? If that were to happen, we’d have a brand new society. Yet I find that people often try the easy route when they have been in conflict with others. They go to Yah and say, “Yah, please forgive Mary.” Or they say, “Yah tell Mary that I forgive her,” or, “Yah, I ask You to change Mary.” They don’t want to go to the person directly. We love to hide behind Yah so that we don’t have to accept the responsibility of face-to-face relationships. Our reluctance to deal honestly and directly with other people is the reason why there are so many problems in relationships, even in the body of Hamachiach. We use Yah as a scapegoat.




I honor everyone and do right by them, not only because I love people and because of who they are, but also for the sake of my relationship with Yah. Yahusha said that my relationship with Yah is even more important than my relationship with people- and yet Yah made my relationship with Him contingent on my relationship with people.