BOUNDARIES EXPOSE FAKE FRIENDS

Romans chapter 12










Today we are walking in: BOUNDARIES EXPOSE FAKE FRIENDS













1 Chronicles 28:9




And thou, Solomon my son, know thou the God of thy father, and serve him with a perfect heart and with a willing mind H3824: for the LORD searcheth all hearts, and understandeth all the imaginations of the thoughts: if thou seek him, he will be found of thee; but if thou forsake him, he will cast thee off for ever.

























MIND













Today we look to the word-MIND-H3824 lebab--mind, knowledge, thinking, reflection, memory















The Torah testifies...............







Genesis 23:8




And he communed with them, saying, If it be your mind H3824 that I should bury my dead out of my sight; hear me, and intreat for me to Ephron the son of Zohar,




Leviticus 24:12




And they put him in ward, that the mind H3824 of the LORD might be shewed them.







Numbers 16:28

And Moses said, Hereby ye shall know that the Lord hath sent me to do all these works; for I have not done them of mine own mind H3824.



















The prophets proclaim..................




Isaiah 26:3




Thou wilt keep him in perfect peace, whose mind H3824 is stayed on thee: because he trusteth in thee.







Ezekiel 11:5




And the Spirit of the Lord fell upon me, and said unto me, Speak; Thus saith the Lord; Thus have ye said, O house of Israel: for I know the things that come into your mind H3824, every one of them.









Habakkuk 1:11




Then shall his mind H3824 change, and he shall pass over, and offend, imputing this his power unto his god.















The writings bear witness..........................







1 Chronicles 22:7




And David said to Solomon, My son, as for me, it was in my mind H3824 to build an house unto the name of the LORD my God:













Lamentations 3:21




This I recall to my mind H3824, therefore have I hope.







Job 34:33

Should it be according to thy mind H3824? he will recompense it, whether thou refuse, or whether thou choose; and not I: therefore speak what thou knowest.















BOUNDARIES EXPOSE FAKE FRIENDS




My friends, listen to me very carefully because there is a crisis in the body of the Mashiach that is subtle, and anything subtle is dangerous. Many of Yahuah’s people are suffering not because the adversary is powerful, but because they are ignorant of Kingdom laws. You see, when you enter the Kingdom of Elohim, you do not enter a religion, you enter a government. And every government functions by principles. If you violate the principles, the principles will punish you, not because Elohim is angry, but because laws are automatic.




Now the first thing I want you to understand is this. Yahuah is not committed to your comfort. He is committed to your purpose. The greatest tragedy in life is not death. It is life without purpose. Because purpose is the original intent of the Creator. Whatever Yahuah makes, He makes it with an assignment. And therefore your relationships, your friendships, your circles, your connections, none of those are accidents. They are either aligned with purpose or they are opposed to purpose. There is no neutral ground in the Kingdom.




So here is the question. Why are so many believers surrounded by people and yet they are drained, confused, delayed, and frustrated? Why do you keep helping people and yet your own destiny seems stuck in traffic? The answer is not that you are too loving. The answer is that you are too accessible. You have allowed people to touch what Yahuah told you to protect. You have given covenant access to convenient relationships. And hear me, anyone who has uncontrolled access to you will eventually control you.




That is why the Scripture commands, guard your heart, for out of it flow the issues of life. Your heart is not a playground. It is the fountain of your future. If you do not guard the fountain, the stream of your life becomes polluted. And once your stream is polluted, your decisions become polluted. And once your decisions are polluted, your destiny becomes postponed.




Now many people think boundaries are a modern psychological idea. No. Boundaries are an ancient Kingdom concept. In fact, Elohim is the first one who established boundaries. The Scriptures say He separated the light from the darkness, and He divided the waters from the land. Separation is not hatred. Separation is order. And where there is no order, there can be no purpose.




That means if Yahuah is a Elohim of boundaries, then any believer who lives without boundaries is living unlike Elohim. Even Yahusha operated by boundaries. The Scripture says He often withdrew to lonely places and prayed. He did not heal everyone in every town. He did not answer every demand. He did not surrender His assignment to the pressure of the crowd. Why? Because purpose requires focus, and focus requires boundaries.




Let me say it another way. Your life is a product, and the Manufacturer wrote in your spirit the manual called purpose. Now if you use the product outside the manual, you call it abuse. And many of you are being abused emotionally, spiritually, and mentally, not because people are strong, but because you have not read the manual of your own purpose. You keep saying yes to things that Yahuah never authorized. And every unauthorized yes is a thief of destiny.




That is why Sha’ul says let every man prove his own work, and again he says let each one carry his own load. You are not called to carry everybody’s load. There is only one Savior, and you are not Him. Yahusha Ha’Mashiach did not die to make you everyone’s messiah. He died to restore you to your assignment.




So today I want to take you into a law that will change your life. There is one boundary Yahuah uses again and again to expose counterfeit friends. People who love your gift but hate your growth. Who enjoy your oil but resist your order. Who celebrate your usefulness but despise your prioritizing. And when you understand this boundary, you will stop bleeding in the name of love and start building in the name of purpose.




Because the Kingdom is not about being liked. The Kingdom is about being aligned. And alignment always reveals assignment. That is why the Scripture says, love your neighbor as yourself. You cannot love your neighbor properly if you keep abandoning yourself. Self-preservation is not selfishness. It is stewardship. You are Yahuah’s property, and Yahuah expects you to manage His property well.




If you catch this, you will discover that boundaries are not walls of bitterness. They are gates of wisdom. Gates open and close. They do not say, “I hate you.” They say, “I honor what Yahuah put in me too much to let you mishandle it.”




That is why some of you are about to experience a holy shift in your relationships. Not because you are becoming proud, but because you are becoming precise. Not because you are becoming cold, but because you are becoming Kingdom. And when you become Kingdom, you stop attracting parasites and you start attracting partners.




Now let’s go deeper, because if you do not understand the law, you will keep repeating the same pain thinking it is a personality issue when really it is a purpose issue. In the Kingdom of Elohim, people are never supposed to be your source. They are supposed to be your support. Yahuah alone is your source.




The moment you make people your source, you turn them into an idol and you turn yourself into a slave. That is why Yahuah says, “I am Yahuah your Elohim. You shall have no other mighty ones before Me.” Some of you read that and think it is talking about statues. No. Anything you fear losing more than Yahuah, anything you cannot say no to, anything that controls your peace, that thing is functioning as a mighty one in your life.




And Yahuah will not share His throne with your relationships. He loves you too much to let a human being replace His role.




So here is the Kingdom law. Your purpose must govern your relationships, not your relationships govern your purpose. Let me repeat that. Your purpose must govern your relationships.




Why? Because purpose is the Manufacturer’s intent. Before Yahuah gave you to anybody, He gave you to Himself. Before He connected you to a friend, He connected you to an assignment.




Yirmeyahu records Yahuah saying, “Before I formed you in the womb, I knew you. Before you were born, I set you apart. I ordained you.” Notice ordination came before association. Yahuah did not say, “I made you so you could keep everybody happy.” He said, “I made you for a destiny.”




That means relationships are supposed to serve destiny, not sabotage it.




Now understand something else. In a Kingdom, relationship is not primarily emotional. It is functional. That is why Yahusha called disciples, not fans. Fans love what you do. Disciples love what you are becoming. Fans clap at your miracles. Disciples submit to your message. Fans follow you for bread. Disciples follow you for transformation.




And Yahusha Ha’Mashiach demonstrated this law with frightening clarity. The Scriptures say many believed in Him when they saw the signs which He did, but Yahusha did not commit Himself to them because He knew what was in man. In other words, Yahusha loved everybody, but He did not give everybody access. He healed crowds, but He mentored twelve. He allowed seventy to witness power, but only three to witness intimacy. He was not being arrogant. He was being accurate, because destiny requires selective access.




So when you say everybody is my friend, you are confessing confusion. Because no one can be close to you without affecting you. The Scriptures say, he who walks with the wise will be wise, but a companion of fools will be destroyed. That is not poetry. That is policy. It means your environment is a silent instructor.




If you stay around people who do not respect purpose, their disrespect will eventually rewrite your priorities. That is why Sha’ul warned, do not be deceived, evil company corrupts good character. He did not say evil company destroys you immediately. He said it corrupts slowly, subtly, like poison in water. You do not taste poison right away. You feel fine for a while, and then one day you wake up and you do not recognize your own passion anymore.




Therefore, every person in your life is either one of two things, a divine connection or a demonic distraction. Please do not misunderstand me. I am not saying the person is a demon. I am saying their presence in your life can be used by darkness to pull you away from divine intent.




The adversary does not always attack you with sin. Sometimes he attacks you with sympathy. He sends you a needy person, a broken person, a dependent person. And because your heart is kind, you keep rescuing what Yahuah is trying to develop. And the adversary smiles because you are so busy doing good that you are ignoring what is Elohim.




And Yahusha said it plainly to Martha, you are worried and troubled about many things, but one thing is needed. Purpose is singular. Purpose is not a committee. Purpose is not a crowd. Purpose is a focused assignment.




Let us make it practical. If a person cannot function with your purpose, they will eventually fight your purpose. They may not fight it openly. They might fight it with guilt, with emotional manipulation, with accusations like, you have changed, you think you are better, you do not care anymore. They will use your kindness as a leash to pull you out of alignment.




But hear me. Any relationship that requires your disobedience to survive is a relationship Yahuah never authorized.




Abraham had to leave his father’s house to enter his promise. Yoseph had to be separated from his brothers to reach his throne. Ruth had to leave Moab to find her Boaz. Even Yahusha said a man’s enemies will be those of his own household. Meaning sometimes the greatest resistance to your purpose is not outside of you, it is around you.




So I am laying a foundation here. You do not choose friends by history. You choose friends by destiny. You do not hold on to people because they have been there. You hold on to people because they are going there. If they are not going where Yahuah is taking you, you cannot drag them without delaying yourself.




That is why Yahuah told Yisra’el, you have stayed long enough at this mountain. Some of you are at a relational mountain you have stayed at too long. Yahuah is saying move. But every time you try to move, you hear a voice saying, what about me? And Yahuah is saying, if you keep answering that voice, you will miss Mine.




This is why boundaries are not optional for Kingdom citizens. Boundaries are the infrastructure of purpose. Without them, your anointing leaks. Without them, your focus scatters. Without them, you become a public well with no cover. Everybody comes to draw, but nobody comes to protect the water.




Yet the Scriptures say, guard your heart, and again, keep yourself in the love of Elohim, and again, watch over your life and teaching closely. In other words, your life is a stewardship. And stewardship means management for the sake of purpose.




So in this Kingdom law of purpose and people, the first thing you must settle in your spirit is this. You belong to Yahuah before you belong to anybody. And your assignment must be protected above your approval.




Now, having laid that foundation, we must define the subject. Because in the Kingdom, you cannot defeat what you do not define. Ignorance is the most expensive bill you will ever pay.




So let us define fake friends from a Kingdom perspective. A fake friend is not necessarily someone who hates you. That is too easy. Sometimes your enemy is obvious, but deception is never obvious. A fake friend is someone who is present for your benefits but absent for your becoming. They are loyal to your value only while it serves their needs.




They do not relate to your purpose. They relate to your product. They do not love you. They love what comes through you. And the tragedy is because you are kind, you keep calling consumption connection.




Let me say it bluntly. Not everyone who sits at your table is eating with you. Some are studying you. Yahudah kissed Yahusha before he sold Him. So do not tell me a kiss is proof of covenant.




The Scriptures say the kisses of an enemy are deceitful, but faithful are the wounds of a friend. In other words, a real friend does not always flatter you. Sometimes they confront you, because covenant is committed to your future, not your feelings.




Fake friends, however, are committed to your function for them. They want you useful, not whole. They want you available, not aligned. They want the oil on your life, but they despise the order that protects your oil.




In the Kingdom, friendship is not built on sentiment first. It is built on assignment. When Dawid and Yonathan met, the Scriptures say Yonathan’s soul was knit to Dawid’s soul. Why? Because Yonathan recognized the call on Dawid’s life. He did not say, I like your personality. He said, I see your destiny.




That is Kingdom friendship, covenant around purpose.




But Sha’ul, Dawid’s fake friend, related to Dawid only as long as Dawid served Sha’ul’s insecurity. Sha’ul loved Dawid’s music when it calmed his torment, but the moment Dawid’s purpose threatened Sha’ul’s throne, Sha’ul picked up a spear. That is how a fake friend operates. They celebrate what you give, then attack what you become.




So here is a Kingdom indicator. A fake friend is uncomfortable with your growth. When you were broken, they were powerful. When you were confused, they were needed. When you had no boundaries, they had control. But the moment you start maturing, the moment you start saying, no, I need to pray about this, the moment you start guarding your peace, they interpret it as pride.




Why? Because your growth removes their access. And some people do not want you healed. They want you dependent. That is why the Scriptures warn, do not cast your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet. Yahusha was not insulting animals. He was teaching access levels. Pearls represent precious things, your vision, your vulnerability, your inner life. If you give pearls to someone who lacks spiritual value, they will eventually treat your destiny like dirt.




Now another thing. Fake friends are usually seasonal, but they pretend to be permanent. Qoheleth says to everything there is a season. There are people Yahuah assigns for a season to help you survive a stage. But if you keep a seasonal person into a permanent chapter, they become a burden.




Lot was assigned to Abram’s early journey, but Lot was not assigned to Abram’s promise. So Yahuah had to separate them. And the Scriptures say the land could not sustain them together. The land could not sustain them. Not because the land was small, but because the purpose was different. When purpose differs, proximity becomes warfare.




Some of you are fighting unnecessary wars because your circle is mixed with people whose purpose does not match your direction.




Fake friends also carry a particular spirit. Watch this. They withdraw without depositing. They keep taking your time, taking your counsel, taking your energy, taking your money, taking your compassion, but they never pour back into your spirit. The Scriptures call that a leech. Shelomoh said there are people crying give, give, and never saying I am here for you. They are spiritual parasites.




They do not come to build you. They come to drink you. They do not ask how is your soul. They ask what can you do for me. And because you have not yet regulated access, you keep giving until you are empty. Then you wonder why you feel anxious, unseen, and exhausted.




My friend, your exhaustion is not proof of ministry. It might be proof of manipulation.




Let me give you a simple Kingdom test. Who celebrates your boundaries? Real friends will say, I honor your rest. Fake friends will say, you are acting different. Real friends will say, I am glad you are protecting your purpose. Fake friends will say, so I guess you are too busy now.




Real friends are grateful for your person. Fake friends are entitled to your service. And entitlement is the language of a counterfeit relationship. Because love never demands access. Love requests it.




Even Yahuah does not force entry. The book of Revelation says, behold, I stand at the door and knock. A knock is a boundary. Yahuah Himself respects gates. He says, if anyone hears My voice and opens the door, I will come in. If the Almighty operates by invitation, why are you letting people operate by intrusion?




So please understand this. Fake friends are not defined by closeness. They are defined by alignment. They can be in your house and still be out of destiny. They can call you every day and still be a distraction.




And that is why the next part is critical. Because once you identify the counterfeit, you must know what boundary exposes them. And I am going to show you that Yahuah uses your boundary like a spotlight. When you turn it on, the roaches scatter.




Now here is the heart of the matter. And if you miss this, you will keep repeating cycles you were delivered from. The boundary Yahuah uses to expose counterfeit relationships is this. You must regulate access to your purpose. Write that down in your spirit. Regulate access to your purpose.




Meaning you do not give everyone the right to enter your inner world, your time, your vision, your process, your energy, your future. In the Kingdom, access is never a right. Access is a trust. And trust is always measured by alignment with assignment.




Let me teach you like a government teaches its citizens. In every nation, there are levels of access. You can be a tourist in a country and still not have the access a citizen has. And even as a citizen, you do not have access to the king’s private chambers. Why? Because government survives by order, and order is protected by boundaries.




The Kingdom of Yahuah is the same. Yahuah is a King. Kings do not run democracies. They run kingdoms. And in a kingdom, the King decides who gets access to what belongs to the King.




Now you are the King’s property. You are not your own. Sha’ul said you were bought with a price. That means you are not a public building. You are a sacred temple. And temples are not open markets.




So when you allow uncontrolled access to your life, you are violating divine protocol. You are letting people handle holy things casually. And Yahuah will not bless what you refuse to protect.




The Scriptures say guard your heart, because out of it flows everything that becomes your life. If your heart is the well of your destiny, then your boundary is the cover over that well. If you leave a well uncovered, anything can fall in, dirt, poison, dead animals. And then you wonder why the water tastes bitter.




Many believers are drinking bitter water today because they left their hearts uncovered.




Now let us be specific. Regulating access to purpose means you establish gates around four critical areas.




First, your time. Time is the currency of purpose. You do not spend time, you invest time. And anything you invest in must be approved by purpose. Yahusha said in effect, I must be about My Father’s business. He did not say, I must be about everybody’s emergencies.




He knew what He was sent to do. When people tried to pull Him into other agendas, He walked away. Not because He was rude, but because He was focused.




Second, your energy. Energy is the strength Yahuah gives you to execute assignment. If you waste energy on unauthorized people, you will have no strength for authorized work. That is why Yesha’yahu says, those who wait on Yahuah shall renew their strength.




Your strength is renewable only when it is submitted to the right source. If everybody is siphoning your strength, you will be tired even in prayer. And Yahuah never ordained tired prayer.




Third, your vision. Vision is the picture of your future. And Yoseph teaches us that vision must be protected from premature exposure. He told his brothers too early, and they tried to kill the dream.




Some of you keep sharing your vision with people who have no spiritual capacity to carry it. They smile in your face and stab your faith in private. Vision is seed. And seed does not need applause. Seed needs soil.




So you do not show seed to everybody. You bury seed. You nurture seed. You protect seed until it becomes fruit.




Fourth, your vulnerability. This one is heavy. Your inner life, your wounds, your fears, your weaknesses, those are not for casual conversation. The Scriptures say confess your faults one to another. Yes, but not to everyone. You do not confess to a crowd. You confess to covenant.




Because vulnerability in the wrong hands becomes a weapon. That is why Dawid said, even my close companion in whom I trusted has lifted his heel against me. Betrayal only works when access was unregulated.




So when you gate those four things, time, energy, vision, vulnerability, you activate divine discernment. And here is the key. The moment you regulate access, the counterfeit gets restless.




Fake friends do not hate you because you set a boundary. They hate you because the boundary exposes their motive. Now they must decide, do I love this person, or do I love what I get from this person?




Let me say it plainly. Boundaries are Yahuah’s X-ray machine for relationships. When you set a gate, you can see bones. You can see structure. You can see what is real.




And the person assigned to you will respect the gate. They will say, I honor your time. They will say, take your rest. They will say, I am here even when you cannot give.




But the person who came to consume you will get offended. They will call you selfish. They will say you have changed. They will accuse you of pride. Why? Because in their mind, your availability was their entitlement.




And watch this. Yahuah uses your no as a test. Shelomoh teaches that a friend loves at all times, not just convenient times. So when you say no, you reveal who loves you at all times.




When you stop financing their chaos, you reveal who valued your peace. When you stop carrying their burdens, you reveal who wanted a partner and who wanted a slave.




I remember a young woman in ministry. Let me call her Deborah. Deborah was the kindest person in the assembly. If you called her at midnight, she would answer. If you needed money, she would send it. If you needed prayer, she would drop everything. But after years of this, she came to me exhausted. She said, “I feel empty.” I said, “You are empty because you have become a public well.”




I asked her, “Who replenishes you?” She looked at me and cried. She could not name one person. So I said, “Your first assignment is not to be needed. Your first assignment is to obey.”




She began to set one boundary. She stopped answering calls during her prayer and study time. That one boundary shook her entire circle. Some people got angry. Some vanished. But a few remained quietly, faithfully. And she told me later, “When I got disciplined, the parasites left and the partners stayed.”




That is how Yahuah exposes counterfeit friends. So do not be afraid of the shaking that comes when you set this boundary. Shaking is revelation. Ivriym says Yahuah shakes what can be shaken so that what cannot be shaken may remain. In other words, if a relationship collapses because you protected your purpose, it was never built on covenant. It was built on convenience.




Let me conclude this part with the law. Purpose is your priority. And access to you must be a privilege. If you do not make access a privilege, people will make your destiny their playground.




You are Yahuah’s investment. You are heaven’s strategy in the earth. You are not common. Therefore, you must stop living commonly. Regulate access to your purpose and you will watch Yahuah reveal who is real.




Now I want you to see that what I am teaching you is not a personal preference. It is a scriptural pattern. The Kingdom of Yahuah is a system. Yahuah does nothing randomly. He is a God of design, and design always includes borders.




If you study the Scriptures from Bereshiyth to Chizayon, you will discover that whenever Yahuah establishes something valuable, He surrounds it with a boundary. Not to imprison it, but to preserve it. Boundaries are heaven’s way of protecting purpose from abuse.




Let us begin at the beginning. In Bereshiyth, the first act of Yahuah after creation was not to make more things. It was to separate things. He divided light from darkness. He separated waters from land. He distinguished day from night. Why? Because where there is no separation, there can be no order. And where there is no order, there can be no purpose.




Confusion is the absence of boundaries. So the first teacher of boundaries is Yahuah Himself.




Then He placed Adam in Eden, a perfect environment. And what did He do? He gave Adam a boundary. You may freely eat of every tree of the garden, but of the tree of the knowledge of good and evil you shall not eat.




Why would a loving Elohim put a boundary in a perfect place? Because perfection without discipline is vulnerability. Eden was not destroyed by a storm. It was destroyed by a boundary violation. One conversation outside divine limits collapsed human destiny.




That tells you something. Boundaries are not small matters. Boundaries are the difference between protection and pain, between promise and postponement.




Look again at the Tabernacle, Yahuah’s template for spiritual access. It was not an open field. It had courts, an outer court, an inner court, the holy place, the most holy place. And not everyone could enter every level.




Why? Because intimacy is not democratic. Intimacy is earned by alignment. There were priests for one level, Leviyim for another, and only the High Priest for the holiest level, and even then only at appointed times.




That is not favoritism. That is order. Yahuah was teaching Yashar’el that access is sacred. If you give holy access to the unholy, you contaminate what is consecrated.




Even in the life of Yahusha, the pattern remains. He had boundaries around His time. He had boundaries around His circle. He had boundaries around His mission. He healed many, but there were towns where He did not perform mighty works because there was no belief. He did not beg places to receive Him. He did not chase people who rejected Him. He moved where purpose pulled Him.




That is a boundary.




Now why do boundaries reveal motives? Because boundaries expose why people are connected to you. When there is no boundary, everyone looks loyal. Loyalty is never tested. But the moment you establish a gate, the gate becomes a mirror. It reflects hearts.




Motives hide comfortably in unlimited access. But motives panic when access is regulated.




That is why when you start growing, some people start complaining. When you start focusing, some people start accusing. When you stop being available, some people start attacking. That is not because your boundary is wrong. It is because their motive is weak.




Here is the law. Any relationship offended by your obedience is not authorized by Yahuah.




When Yahuah told Abram, “Leave your country, your people, and your father’s house,” that was not just geography. That was separation for purpose. Abram could not become the father of many nations while staying in an environment that did not understand his assignment.




When Abram obeyed, destiny opened. If he had refused, destiny would have remained locked.




And then Yahuah tested Abram again through boundaries when He spoke about Yitschaq. Yahuah was not after the child. He was after priority. Every boundary is a test of what you love most.




Boundaries expose whether something is an idol or an instrument.




When you set boundaries with people, you are not trying to hurt them. You are discerning whether they are assigned to your destiny or attached to your comfort.




Look at Nechemyah. When he began rebuilding the wall, a boundary, the enemies became angry. Why? Because boundaries frustrate invaders. If there is no wall, the enemy walks in. But when a wall goes up, the enemy reveals himself.




Boundaries do not create enemies. They expose them.




So when you regulate access and people become offended, do not panic. You are not losing friends. You are losing fraud.




Yahusha said every branch that does not bear fruit is taken away. Sometimes Yahuah removes through distance. Sometimes through offense. Sometimes through your obedience to say no. But the purpose is always preservation of destiny.




Boundaries are Yahuah’s instrument of discernment. They separate covenant from convenience, assignment from attraction, destiny helpers from destiny hijackers.




And when you build boundaries, roles become clear, motives become visible, and peace becomes protected.




That is why the Scripture says, “Do not be unequally yoked together.” Many people only apply that to marriage, but it is a kingdom principle for life. A yoke is a tool that joins two animals so they can pull in the same direction. The principle is simple. Do not tie yourself to someone committed to a different direction. When direction is different, effort becomes warfare.




Some of you are exhausted not because the load is heavy, but because you are yoked to resistance. You are pulling purpose forward while someone else is pulling comfort backward. And every step feels like strain. That is not humility. That is misalignment.




So the scriptural pattern proves this. Boundaries are not optional. They are Yahuah’s method of protecting what He planted. And they reveal motives because they force hearts to answer questions they could hide from when access was unlimited.




Are you here for the King’s agenda in my life, or are you here for your own appetite?




Now because we are dealing with destiny, we must become discerning people. One of the greatest gifts of the Ruach HaQodesh is discernment. Not tongues. Not prophecy. Not signs. Discernment. Because if you cannot discern people, you will leak purpose into the wrong hands.




The Scripture says be wise as serpents and harmless as doves. That means gentle in heart but sharp in judgment. You do not have to be suspicious, but you must be selective.




So let me give you clear kingdom indicators that a person is not assigned to your destiny.




First sign. They only come to you when they need something. That is not relationship. That is extraction. Mishlei tells us the poor is hated even by his neighbor, but the rich has many friends. That is not praise. That is exposure. Some people are not loyal to you. They are loyal to what they can get from you.




When you are useful, they are present. When you are weak, they are absent.




Second sign. They celebrate your giving but criticize your resting. They love your yes but resent your no. They call you humble when you are overextending, but selfish when you are recovering. That is not love. That is control.




Yahuah Himself rested. If rest is holy for Him, it is not sinful for you. Anyone who makes you feel guilty for protecting your health is trying to profit from your weakness.




Third sign. They support your past but sabotage your future. They love the version of you that stayed small. They remind you who you used to be because your growth threatens their comfort.




When Yashar’el left Mitsrayim, Pharaoh did not chase them because he loved them. He chased them because their freedom threatened his economy. Some people resist your growth because it removes their leverage.




Fourth sign. They want access without accountability. They want influence in your life but reject truth in their own. In the Kingdom, access and responsibility are inseparable. If someone demands access but refuses responsibility, they are not covenant. They are a parasite.




Fifth sign. They drain you and call it love. They dump their chaos on your peace and call you cold when you set limits. The Scripture says bear one another’s burdens, but it also says each person must carry their own load. There is a difference between helping and enabling.




If you keep carrying what someone else is responsible for, you interrupt Yahuah’s process in them.




Sixth sign. Your boundary reveals their anger. When you set a limit, they are not just disappointed. They are offended. Because entitlement was touched. A real friend may feel sad, but they will still honor your decision. A fake friend feels betrayed because they were relating to you as a resource, not a person.




Seventh sign. They compete with your calling. They smile publicly but contest your future privately. Qayin did not kill Hevel because of personal offense. He killed him because favor exposed laziness.




A person who cannot celebrate your rising is not safe near your destiny.




Eighth sign. They resist your growth because your growth removes their control. Love pushes you toward purpose. Anyone who needs you broken so they can feel needed is not assigned to you.




Iron sharpens iron. Rust corrodes.




Now hear this. Your destiny is too expensive for cheap relationships. Do not apologize for outgrowing people who refuse to grow with you. Enlargement requires restructuring. You cannot enlarge the tent and keep the same stakes.




Some of you are enlarging spiritually but trying to keep old relational stakes, and the tent keeps tearing. Yahuah is saying change the stakes.




So how do you respond when you see these signs? You do not become bitter. You become aligned. You do not curse people. You create distance. Separation is not rejection. It is preservation.




Yahusha loved Yahudah, but He never entrusted him. He discerned circles. And if the Mashiach discerned circles, you must as well.




They do not have to be evil to be wrong for you. They can be good people, but not God-people for your assignment.




Lot was not wicked, but he was still a weight. Demas was not a demon, but he was still a distraction.




So stop judging relationships by morality alone. Judge them by mission alignment.




When Yahuah cleanses your circle, the first emotion you will feel is grief. Because even wrong people can feel familiar. But you must love divine order more than emotional attachment.




Yahuah never subtracts without intending to multiply. When He allows people to leave, it is not to isolate you. It is to align you.




Loneliness is painful. Misalignment is deadly.




Circles are not social accessories. They are strategy. Your environment is your future in seed form.




Blessed is the man who does not walk in counsel, stand in paths, or sit in seats that distort purpose. Association deepens into identity.




You cannot fulfill a divine assignment with an unauthorized circle.




Destiny helpers build with you. Destiny hijackers benefit from you.




Boundaries expose hijackers so helpers can find you.




When God reduces a circle, it is often selection, not rejection.




Do not mourn exits Yahuah engineered. Do not chase people Yahuah exposed. Do not negotiate seasons He ended.




The smaller the circle, the purer the oil.




God is not trying to make you popular. He is trying to make you fruitful.




You were not born to be needed. You were born to be obedient.




And obedience always outlives popularity.




When you protect your purpose, Yahuah protects your peace. When you protect your peace, Yahuah multiplies your power. And when power aligns with purpose, your life becomes unstoppable in the Kingdom.




Remember this with clarity. You are not the source. Yahuah is the source. The moment you begin acting like the source, you step outside your assignment. And whenever you step outside your assignment, you step into anxiety, confusion, and depletion.




The Father never called you to be everyone’s rescuer. There is only one Savior, and His Name is Yahusha Ha’Mashiach. You were not called to save people from the consequences of their own choices. You were called to serve the purpose of Elohim where He planted you.




That is why the Scripture says it is required in stewards that a man be found faithful. Faithful to what? Faithful to assignment. Not faithful to pressure. Not faithful to guilt. Not faithful to emotional demands. Faithful to Heaven’s instruction.




So hear the central truth again. The boundary Yahuah uses to expose counterfeit relationships is your decision to regulate access to your purpose, your time, your energy, your vision, and your vulnerability. Only those who respect your assignment are permitted into your inner life.




When you set that boundary, motives cannot hide. Parasites cannot pretend. Convenience cannot masquerade as covenant. Boundaries force every relationship to answer the Kingdom question: Are you here for the King’s agenda in my life, or are you here for your own appetite?




And hear this carefully. When people walk away because you obeyed Yahuah, they are not leaving you. They are leaving the version of you they could control. That is not loss. That is deliverance.




Yahusha said every plant which the Heavenly Father has not planted will be uprooted. If Yahuah did not plant the relationship, He will eventually remove it. Sometimes through boundaries. Sometimes through growth. Sometimes through silence. But He removes it because He loves your destiny too much to let weeds choke your harvest.




Do not fear separation. Separation is often preparation.




The Scripture says, “Come out from among them and be separate, and I will receive you.” Separation precedes reception. Many want the next level, but they are still entertaining unauthorized access. They are feeding what Yahuah is starving. They are watering what He is burying.




And the Ruach of Elohim is saying, if you honor My order, I will accelerate your future.




So hold this final law in your spirit. People assigned to your purpose will respect your boundaries. People attracted to your benefits will resent your boundaries.




Do not explain your gates to those who profit from your openness. Do not apologize for honoring what Yahuah placed in you. Do not feel guilty for choosing peace.




Peace is not luxury. Peace is a signal. Peace is evidence that you are walking in alignment.




Whenever your peace is stolen, Heaven is warning you that alignment is being threatened.




You owe it to Yahuah. You owe it to your future. You owe it to your own soul to protect what He placed in you. Purpose is the greatest gift Elohim ever gave you, and it is too sacred to be handled casually.




So walk forward with courage. Say no when Yahuah says no. Rest when He says rest. Withdraw when He says withdraw. Open only to those who honor your assignment.




And you will discover this truth. When you protect your purpose, Yahuah protects your peace. When you protect your peace, He multiplies your power. And when power aligns with purpose, your life becomes unstoppable in the Kingdom.




You were not born to be needed. You were born to be obedient. And obedience will always outlive popularity. Obedience will always produce fruit. Obedience will always bring the right people into your life at the right time.




That is the Kingdom way.

That is divine order.