MALE- FEMALE DIFFERENCES PART 2

Genesis chapter 2










Today we are walking in: Male-Female Differences Part 2!!!!







Today we look to the word-UNDERSTAND- H8085 shama`--to hear with attention or interest, listen to understand (language)










The Torah testifies...............




Genesis 11:7




Go to, let us go down, and there confound their language, that they may not understand H8085 one another's speech.










The prophets proclaim..................




Nehemiah 8:2




And Ezra the priest brought the law before the congregation both of men and women, and all that could hear H8085 with understanding, upon the first day of the seventh month.











The writings bear witness...........................




1 Kings 3:9




Give therefore thy servant an understanding H8085 heart to judge thy people, that I may discern between good and bad: for who is able to judge this thy so great a people?







5. Differences in Realizing Goals




When it comes to material things, such as a job task, a building project, or financial planning, men want to know the details of how to get there. They like to know what steps they must take to achieve a task. In contrast, women tend to look at overall goals. They think about what they want to accomplish rather than focusing on a step-by-step outline of what needs to be done. While a man will sit down and write out a list of points, a woman might just start doing something to make sure it gets done.




However, when it comes to spiritual or intangible things, the opposite is generally true: males look at overall goals, while females want to know how to get there. These tendencies are why men usually remember the gist of a matter, while women often remember the details and overlook or even misconstrue the gist. Men are interested in the principle, the abstract, the philosophy. They see the general direction they need to go in spiritually, and they head toward it. As long as they know what they believe, they don‘t always see the need for activities designed to help them arrive at their goal. However, women like to be involved in the process. They will attend prayer meetings and Bible studies, read Hebrew books, and participate more in the life of the community because it will help them grow spiritually.




Men and women can bring balance to one another in both material and spiritual things by helping each other to keep visions and goals clearly in mind while identifying the steps that are necessary to accomplish them effectively.




6. Differences in Personality and Self-Perception




A man‘s job is an extension of his personality, whereas a woman‘s home is an extension of hers. This difference can cause much conflict in relationships.




For instance, a woman may want her husband to spend time with her at home, whereas he can enjoy working twelve hours a day away from the home because he‘s cultivating something that is a reflection of who he is. He needs to work in order to feel fulfilled. Remember that when a man loses his job, it can be devastating to his self-esteem because he considers his job to be almost synonymous with himself.




A woman places high value on her physical surroundings and on creating a home. Men don‘t understand why women become upset when they put their muddy running shoes on the kitchen table or track sawdust in the living room after it has just been vacuumed. Men are not trying to be inconsiderate; they just don‘t think in the same terms that women do. Because a woman identifies herself with her home, sometimes she feels as if the sawdust has been tracked on her. When the beauty and order of the home is disturbed, it can be unsettling for a woman.




Another aspect to the differences in male and female personality and self-perception is that men‘s personalities are fairly consistent, while woman are continually changing. Women seek personal growth and development more than men do. They like to redecorate the home, discover new skills, or gain a new outlook. Men are often satisfied to follow the same routines, think in the same patterns—and wear the same suits for twenty years.




Understanding these personality traits is essential, because they involve sensitive areas of our lives, such as who we are and how we perceive ourselves. Men and women can use their knowledge of these differences to build up each another‘s self-esteem and to give each other latitude when one finds change hard and another looks forward to it.




7. Differences in Ideas of Security and Comfort




Because men put a strong emphasis on their jobs and are not as emotionally connected to their physical surroundings, they have a tendency to be nomadic as they look for new career opportunities. Conversely, many women have a great need for security and roots. While a move due to a new job seems like an adventure for a man and signals progress in his career, it can be stressful and difficult for his wife, who has to leave family and friends behind for an uncertain future. Women will also change geographic locations for jobs; however, married women are less willing to make a move to advance their own jobs than they are for their husbands‘ jobs. They are less inclined to want to disrupt the lives of their families, especially when they have children.




On the other hand, when it comes to encountering something new, men tend to stand back and evaluate at first. Women are more ready to accept new experiences, and they participate in them more easily. Let‘s return to the illustration from a previous teaching of a couple attending a new community. The man will scrutinize the people in a community, to see if they are genuine and trustworthy. A woman is more likely to take what she sees at face value and become involved more quickly.




Matters involving security and comfort can require great understanding on the part of a spouse. They reflect issues such as fulfillment, trustworthiness, fear, and feelings of instability. When men or women want to make job changes or embark on something new, they should be aware of the possible reactions of their spouses and show kindness and patience as they work through these potential changes to their lives.




True Fulfillment




As you can see, males and females perceive the world in very distinct ways, and they react differently to people and circumstances. However, they complement one another perfectly, so that they bring balance to each other‘s lives. What one fails to see, the another perceives. What one is weak in, the other is strong in.




No one person, and no one gender, can look at the world with complete perspective. Therefore, Yah has designed things so that when the male-man and the female-man live and work together in unity, they can help one another to have a wiser and richer experience of life. They can be more complete as human beings.




Needs are a built-in component to men and women because of the way they are designed. However, when we focus only on our needs, and when we refuse to be content unless they are immediately met, we bring conflict and unhappiness into our relationships. We stop seeing one another as gifts from Yah and start resenting one another.




If you want to be blessed, don‘t focus on your needs but discover what the other person‘s needs are and seek to fulfill them. This approach will become a double blessing, because consistently meeting the needs of another person will often cause that person to want to fulfill yours. Whenever you are not receiving what you need in a relationship, evaluate whether you have been trying to meet the other person‘s needs first. Giving to others by satisfying their needs—not demanding to have our own needs satisfied—will bring true fulfillment.




Principles




1. Men and women have perfectly complementary designs.




2. When men and women don‘t appreciate their differences, they experience conflict. When they value each other‘s purposes, they can have rewarding relationships and blend their unique designs harmoniously for Yah‘s glory.




3. Until the male recognizes the strengths Yah has placed within the female, he will be weak in those areas, because she is designed to supply what he lacks.




4. The primary needs of males are (1) honor, (2) recreational companionship, and (3) sex. The primary needs of females are (1) love, (2) conversation, and (3) affection.




5. A male is naturally a ―logical thinker, while a female is naturally an ―emotional feeler.




6. A male generally expresses what he‘s thinking. A female usually expresses what she‘s feeling. To a male, listening to spoken language is a process by which he receives information. For the female, it‘s an emotional experience.




7. Men are often like filing cabinets: they make quick decisions and mentally file them away, or they create mental ―to do folders, filing away problems until a later time. Women are generally like computers: their minds keep working through problems until they are solved.




8. In material things, men usually want to know the details of how to get there, while women tend to look at the goal. In spiritual things, the opposite is often true.




9. A man‘s job is an extension of his personality, while a woman‘s home is an extension of hers. A man‘s personality is fairly consistent, while a woman‘s is continually changing.




10. Men are nomadic, while women need security and roots.




11. When encountering something new, men tend to stand back and evaluate. Women are more ready to accept new experiences, and they participate in them more easily.