Establish Boundaries--Don't Move The Landmakers!

Galatians 6:22, 6:5; 2 Thessalonians 3:10; Proverbs 16:26; James 1:26, 3:5-8; Proverbs 6:17, 6:24, 10:20,12:18-19, 15:2-4,

  

What we are walking in today:  Establish Boundaries--Don't Move The Landmakers!
 

Witness bridle throughout the Bible: H4964 metheg bridle (for animals), control, authority
Psalm 32:9, 38:9; James 3:2

 

The book referenced throughout this teaching is called Boundaries, by Henry Cloud & John Townsend.  We are preparing for our 30 day fast of our tongues.  What is it that we are speaking or not speaking?  This pause to review what we will say shows us many things about ourselves.  We have to shift from the mindset that our problems all reside outside of ourselves.  Upon this closer review we find that we have been carrying a load that was not for us to carry!  Causing us to become wearied and the other person undeveloped from what would strengthen them--bearing their own load.  The heart and good intentions of caregiving type people must be aware of setting and upholding boundaries for all relationships.  This is especially important for the relationships that would operate in manipulation and deception for the purpose of taking advantage of a kind or giving heart.  The boundaries are to protect both parties of the relationship, not over taxing one nor underwhelming the other.  Much like a fence in our yard allows access to the good to enter and the bad to exit.  We must not be a walled in fortress that the only entrance, is from a breech in the walls.  The gate in the fence allows for this passage of things in and out without damage to the boundary. 

While many of us have a problem saying no to other, we have to take a closer look at that idea.  The truth is if we are not free to say no for fear of rejection, means that we are actually playing in to a manipulation that was not restricted due to a boundary not set up or upheld.  The desperate need can be overlooked for the comparison for the situation seeming very dire.  This is not heartless as we often assume.  This must be reviewed very carefully.  When the protection that was in place is overstepped, there results in consequences.  The interruption of these consequences can lead to a lack of growth and maturity to become a productive part of the community as a whole.  Yahweh's instructions for our relationship with Him and with others covers the boundaries that would cause the community to be made stronger for all members are strong and strengthened by the provision and trust found in Yahweh.  We must not interfere--if this is an consequence that Yahweh is setting before a person to bring about growth and maturity.  While we all experience uncomfortable times that cause us to grow up and no longer wallow in the things that would stifle us. 

How can we tell that we are in boundary-less situation?  Often we are angered, by the situation--which lets us know that we have been trespassed against.  That these actions are not willing permitted by you but seemly forced upon or not able to be deterred.  We must be careful in out approach to not be too strict with our re-establishing of our boundaries.  We can never change someone else, but we can change our response which in turn will change how they react to us.  To hear more of the teaching click here.